Went to a play party last night...

[gloombunny]

And I've got the bruises to prove it.

I spent the first couple hours just kind of sitting around watching other people play and eating snacks, 'cuz I didn't know anyone and I'm not good at approaching people and anyway the music was too loud to talk much. (They had a socializing hour just before the party, but I arrived too late for it.) Then finally the person who invited me showed up, and introduced me to a few of her friends before going off to play with her date. And one of those friends happened to be a cute FTM who asked if I wanted to play, and before long I had my shirt off and my wrists tied to a St Andrew's cross while he showed me a variety of floggers from her toy bag. Then he gave me a little taste of each one. I think, on the balance, I like belts more than floggers... although the five-pound flogger was definitely interesting. Damn near knocked me off my feet! ^_^

I had a great time. I would urge everyone here to try attending a play party in their area, if they can find one.

[Alex Bragi]

Hi, sis!! *Oops..sorry..*gg*

Seriously, though, you obviously had a good time, so what else can I say--except--hey, good for you, natalie! *ss*

[Ozme52]

Always interesting to see how others play.

Though I find dungeons to be a bit too 'clinical' for my tastes. I enjoy them but far prefer private scenes.

[gloombunny]

Though I find dungeons to be a bit to 'clinical' for my tastes. I enjoy them but far prefer private scenes.

Yeah, I definitely know the appeal of privacy. On the other hand, I also kind of enjoyed being a spectacle. *blush*

[Ozme52]

I fully understand that. It really works well for Tops and Bottoms... but not so well for Dominants and Submissives... (imo)

[gagged_Louise]

Nice to hear you got a taste of the hot feeeling of being stretched out and whipped with some onlookers. Been around to a few playparties myself and the feeling of being pretty nervous and it's hard to break into this band of strangers is quite common - I remember talking to a girl at a dyke club who said "even if I've been around here half a dozen times /with these people, some of them/ I still feel a bit wound up".

Five pounds in a flogger? Wow!

[subtlescreams]

hmmm i went to a party this weekend...broke some of my vanilla cherry there... but I dont want to hijack this thread so I think I will start my own.

However... first fetish /dungeon party
first time in stocks
first time chained up to another woman
first time I had a flogger used on me...

yeah it was kind of an emotional event, but it was made easier because my boyfriend is a very gentle and caring and experienced Dom, and the host of the party is an old friend of mine, very sweet, very proctective, and very very gay...

[jeanne]

Wow, natalie! Sounds like you had a great time.

[gloombunny]

hmmm i went to a party this weekend...broke some of my vanilla cherry there... but I dont want to hijack this thread so I think I will start my own.

I don't mind! There's only so much mileage a thread can get out of just my first experience. By all means, turn this into a general first-time thread if you want. ^_^

However... first fetish /dungeon party
first time in stocks
first time chained up to another woman
first time I had a flogger used on me...

Oooh... I'm envious of you for those middle two.

yeah it was kind of an emotional event, but it was made easier because my boyfriend is a very gentle and caring and experienced Dom, and the host of the party is an old friend of mine, very sweet, very proctective, and very very gay...

Oh, nice. I was all but alone at mine... the only person I knew there was an acquaintance I'd only talked to online before, and the guy who flogged me I'd never met before at all. Though, oddly, I was a little intimidated when I first walked in all alone, but not uncomfortable at all being tied up and flogged by a stranger. ^_^

[gloombunny]

Wow, natalie! Sounds like you had a great time.

Yep! I'm, uh, not natalie anymore, though. I changed my username because I decided to change my real name... I go by Ivy now.

[jeanne]

Yep! I'm, uh, not natalie anymore, though. I changed my username because I decided to change my real name... I go by Ivy now.

*taking note - "Ivy"*

Thanks for straightening me out, Ivy!

[subtlescreams]

hmmm well, thanks, gloombunny I will transcribe some of what I wrote in my journal about this...

Mostly I was scared, because I am very new to the life style. Essentially, back in April I started seeing a certain Man and with gentle questions (I basically didnt even know what he was asking, or where he was going with the questions, we were just talking) he figured out within half an hour that I had submissive tendencies. Slowly he introduced me to a few ideas, and showed me a glimpse into his world. (He is a very experienced Dom, ran fetish clubs, published a magazine, etc) We began to play very gently over the next few weeks, but his job entailed travelling. Soooo, then he left, but he surprised me by calling that night, and the next day, and basically we have never gone more than a day without speaking ever since. After a few visits back, he returned to live with me in September. Our sex life has been pretty vanilla though since his return, but theres an adjustment factor, plus he has been busy starting a new job and getting his own small business off the ground.

Suddenly he tells me he's met some kinky people on line and theres a dungeon party on Friday night. WTF??? I did not feel ready at all for this, was flipping out... a WHAT kind of party. Hell, we havent done much more than an occasional slap on the butt or a bite here and there (oh and there, and there and yummmy ..there) since he has been back, and now he wants to take me to a dungeon?

But, a few days before the party, I discover the host is an old friend of mine, we were roommates about 12 years ago. We've been out of touch as friends for years, but from time to time we pass each other and have some brief conversation. He's very gay, but I know him enough to know that no one will be abused or pushed past their limits under his watch. So, cool, Ive got an old friend back and I will not feel so alone at this party. I think I can manage this...

I get dudded up... its halloween right, in what I could make into fetish type wear, black platform shoes, fishnet stockings, a little black dress, feather boa and morticia adams style wig. I wore my makeup ultra pale, blood red lips, kinda gothy but not too much. It helped putting on a costume, didnt feel so much like my vanilla self.

So we get to the party, his makeshift dungeon with stocks, a St Andrews cross, some eyehooks and chains, a rack (never got used...well as a table...) lots of candle light, red lightbulbs, people of varying sexualities, women Dommes, women subs, gay subs, straight male subs, a couple we brought along (they were sort of duds), Maybe about 15 people all together...

It was all kind of quite chit chat and show off the toys and things at first...but then a submissive male opted for the cross, and the flogging began. My friend is a bit of a control freak, (and quite the campy queen...)and my boyfriend is well used to running the show, so there was a bit of tension there, but once things got hopping stuff started to run smoother. But watching someone get flogged did nothing for me, (not a turn on or off) and I stuck pretty close to my b/f's side

Eventually the boyfriend decided to do some sensation play with me, which we had done before. Problem was, I could see the cigarette and it made me flinch, so into the stocks I went! My head was in the hole, my arms held up beside me and the feet secured shoulder width apart. It wasnt locked but it was snapped shut with a suitcase type closure. I realized this was a test of trust, but so far no one had been hurt or pushed past their limits. There was a bit of fire and ice on my back and then my boyfriend started biting me all over...

When he finished, he kissed me tenderly and removed me from the stocks. Im not really a smoker, but I found all I could do was sit and wilt in a chair for a while, chainsmoking. Eventually I went upstairs to get another glass of wine......

(to be continued)

[Logic1]

congrats Ivy and to you too subtlenewbie
sounds like you two had great times for a first time

[gloombunny]

I fully understand that. It really works well for Tops and Bottoms... but not so well for Dominants and Submissives... (imo)

I don't follow... sure, me and the guy flogging me were just a bottom and a top for that bit of play, but there are also people in serious D/s relationships who go to these things to play as well, because they don't have the equipment at home, or just because they like an audience. And surely someone can engage in "casual" topping or bottoming but also want D/s in their life? (I'm pretty sure that describes me, anyway.)

[Naomisagoodgirl]

I don't follow... sure, me and the guy flogging me were just a bottom and a top for that bit of play, but there are also people in serious D/s relationships who go to these things to play as well, because they don't have the equipment at home, or just because they like an audience. And surely someone can engage in "casual" topping or bottoming but also want D/s in their life? (I'm pretty sure that describes me, anyway.)

I second the request for clarrifcation. I was curious about what you meant by this, Oz, but didn't want to derail. But since it's gloombunny's thread. . .

Also, congrats to gloombunny and subltenewbie on the fun experiences. I've never been to a play party, I'm not much of an exhibitionist and neither is my master, but I've always been a little curious about them because of the opportunity to see how other people play. To sort of see first hand this what this intimate moment is like for other people.

[Ozme52]

I don't follow... sure, me and the guy flogging me were just a bottom and a top for that bit of play, but there are also people in serious D/s relationships who go to these things to play as well, because they don't have the equipment at home, or just because they like an audience. And surely someone can engage in "casual" topping or bottoming but also want D/s in their life? (I'm pretty sure that describes me, anyway.)

True. I guess I just haven't met those types scening where I've ventured.