A few weeks ago I met with a Dom for dinner after talking with him for a few days online (for those of you who's red flags are popping up, He was a former Dom of a girlfriend of mine, and I only heard positive things about him, and I met him in a public place)
but anyways, dinner was very nice, and the conversation was quite intelligent and we had a diverse number of topics to discuss. But as the evening went on, the conversation turned to me. I do struggle with a certain number of boundaries that I put up for my own personal well being, I don't let people get close without knowing them for a certain amount of time. However, he seemed to be intent upon breaking down all of the barriers over dinner. I hadn't known him longer than a week and this was the first time that we had had a dialogue of this length. It seemed though like he was just pushing and not respecting my "no" in regards to my personal boundaries/space. Yes I am a sub, and I truly enjoy submitting/being submissive, but at the same time, i think that respecting a sub's "no" is very important to a good relationship...

I would appreciate any feedback, should I have tried to lowered my barriers? what was the right course of action to take in this situation?