ok my stepfather popped over the other day and i didnt have time to remove my collar...something that i normally do if the olds are around....he sees me wearing it and askes Sir where is the lead...i could have died ...didnt know he was gonna go home and tell my mother about it.....she came over for a bath last night as they currently dont have a bathroom fitted ...knowing she was coming over i removed the collar..(which Sir allowes me to do) then i deside heck if stepfather has already told mum about it i might as well show it to her...so i put the collar on....she then askes if they are made to measure...collar removed to show her the holes...she then tries it on and the omg factor....asks if i can buy her one the next time i go to the shop where i purchased said collar......this from the woman who cannot wear anything close to her neck as she suffers from fairly sever claustrophobia and panic attacks......i so do not want to think about my mum in that way