We have been together 10 years. His primary kink is bondage. We are getting older. Things are stiffer at times (in the morning my joints don't move as they once did). Sometimes I want comfortable bondage that I can hold for a long time and relish in the delight of it. It's been 10 years, but I want negotiations. If I'm feeling stiff or tight, I may not want a certain type of tie, I don't want to spend all my time concentrating on the pain and not enjoy the pleasure.

If I suggest a negotiation or try to inform Master of a phyisical restriction, I'm "complaining" and he is totally turned off and we may go many weeks before playing again. Or I may get exacylt what I asked not to have, causing me pain that I don't want. I'm not talking about play pain. I'm taking about moving my body in a way it doesn't want to move at that moment. I've even been reprimanded for complaining, even during play. Being told sex had been kept from me because I complained.

I am trying to use my voice to make things as enjoyable as possible. I am not 20 years old anymore. There are issues I face at times and I don't think informing Master of my limitations at that moment is a complaint.

I also don't see it as topping from the bottom. My intent is to give information to Master so a form of play may be determined that is enjoyable for both of us.

What say you Doms ans subs? I'm curious for your thoughts. There is resentment building on both sides.

Gracie