Spanking-how to?

[Xan_in_chains]

I've been reading another thread and there have been complaints of malpractice during spanking sessions. Therefore I was wondering-could anyone give me a little advice on correct procedure/etiquette in a spanking scenario, from both perspectives? I imagine as a sub the main thing is to bend over and think of England so there isn't so much to be said. But from the complimentary perspective, what are the areas to aim for, what degree of force (though I imagine this is sub-jective) and anything else that might be useful to know? Oh, and do the areas to aim for differ based on gender?

[jeanne]

I imagine as a sub the main thing is to bend over and think of England so there isn't so much to be said.

Oh, dear. This couldn't be more incorrect. Let me assure you - when I'm over his knee, the very last thing on my mind is England. Or anything else - except him. And his pleasure in reddening my bottom. And the fact that each strike seems to hit a direct line to my desire and need to please him. And how much I want to, need to, cum.
Right now.

Whew! Did it just get very warm in here? Or is it just me?

[Playfulsub]

Whew! Did it just get very warm in here? Or is it just me?

Seems a little warm to me, too.

[jeanne]

Seems a little warm to me, too.

Heehee. We do quite a nice job getting ourselves wound up when they're not even around, don't we?

[Playfulsub]

Xan_in_chains - here is a link to an article on safe spanking. I knew I had in one of my links, but it took me this long to find it!

http://www.mybdsm.com/pages/carmb/safespanking.htm

jeanne - lol! He's getting home tonight, so yes, I'm quite wound up!

[Xan_in_chains]

Ok, thankyou. And ok but... England is the ultimate Mistress, Queen and country etc etc (Lies)

[crazy_grrluk]

Ok, thankyou. And ok but... England is the ultimate Mistress, Queen and country etc etc (Lies)

Yea yea and dont forget that you are in Satan's hole...Liverpool so theroectically Satan would be your Master. lolol

And to all those we have a saying here in England..... just lie back and think of England. basically it means take your mind off other things....failing that just count all the artex spots in the ceiling...then state that it needs repainting!!
chuckles

[Sir_Russell]

Spanking is an art the big deal is to make it string not hurt or harm. 10 stinging spanks can equal the damage of 1 hard hit. Remember she will be squirming as you see pink coming onto her ass same level of spank will cause the pink to turn red soon enough, after that it can and will go to black and blue but mostly after wards which means it is too late to stop that.

Spanking with one hand does not mean that you can't use the other to excite her actually I highly recommend it.

Spank the fleshy parts of the body the most, cheeks, back of thighs even the back of the calves. stay away from the spine and the ribs. Remember that a spanking is poor punishment because the sub will begin to misbehave to get her bottom spanked

[Xan_in_chains]

An astute point crazy grrluk, it didn't occur to me that others might be unfamiliar with the expression.
Thanks very much for the input Sir Russel; that being the case would you recommend any other form of punishment as more appropriate?

[Sir_Russell]

Certainly I can. It is quite simple anything she hates that isn't a hard limit. Corner standing, writing lines, refusal to talk with her, telling her how and why she FAILED YOU, never use as punishment that which you love and want her to do with and for you.

I go for mental punishment mostly but that means you need to really know her, which means you must really listen to her.

[jeanne]

I do understand the expression "think of England" - I assumed you were talking about spanking as a punishment and for he and I it is always a pleasure. That's why England is the last thing on my mind during a spanking!

And yes, Sir_Russell, you are absolutely right. Using something for both pleasure and punishment kind of negates the whole punishment aspect, doesn't it? It seems to me that type of confusion would only encourage misbehavior on the sub's part rather than discourage it.

[Naomisagoodgirl]

I agree with what's been said about spanking as punishment, but my master sometimes uses it as a light punishment and it works for me. I don't enjoy the spanking if I know he's not doing it for his pleasure. That said, it's definately not the choice punishment nor the most effective one. Come to think of it, it's really the expression of dissaproval more than the smacks themselves that work.

Also, with areas to aim for, knowing the sub is important. I bruise really easily, so if he wants to avoid bruising he has to stick to the cushy part of my ass. For others it takes a good wallop to produce a bruise.