BDSM "friendly" MDs

[Dslave]

Does anyone know if there is any such thing (I am sure, there probably is) as a "BDSM friendly doctor"? I have wondered about this for a very long time. I would like (someday) to be able to see someone in the medical profession that would not question this lifestyle and I was wondering if anyone knew of any or had experience with one?

[BDSM_Tourguide]

There are. In larger cities, they usually post ads in alternative lifestyle publications in the city. Check your local adult toy stores and such to find out if there are any in your area.

[redEva]

It is good question and the one I have been thinking about for quite a while now .

I was quite pleasantly surprised by my family doctors reaction when during last check-up she quite gleefully commented on my pussy rings * giggles * . It actually opened door for some other questions I had about piercing and repiercing and irritations and other questions. When I had problem with my nipple piercings, and went to see MD (not this one) she was quite appalled and told me to take it out – hehe, that much for help.

This one just made fun of me, when after that conversation I cringed on the mention that im due for my tetanus shoot . But on the bright side she did give me sticker with a tiger on it saying “I was brave for my needle” LOL

I do think that given the fact that tattoos and piercings are becoming more of a mainstream today, and BDSM being latest fad, MDs should at least be more used to the site, so I would hope also that they would be more accepting and open-minded on the subject. That being said – still to come for full physical black and blue – would be pushing it. My only suggestion is … I guess, talking to the doctor – when you have the interview session and just straight forward ask him/her how she feels about the alternative lifestyle, somewhere in the same sentence with how liberal he/she is in prescribing antibiotics and if they have set up replacement service for emergency.

hehe - TG was faster than me, I did not know about that - thank you TG

[Barton]

If you have a regular doctor you might try them out. That is if you have a good doctor patient relationship.

Barton

[Dslave]

Thanks everyone for your input. I figured it might be a good question to ask for everyone because everyone needs a doctor at one point in time in their life and it might help if there was access to BDSM friendly doctors.

There are. In larger cities, they usually post ads in alternative lifestyle publications in the city. Check your local adult toy stores and such to find out if there are any in your area.

Unfortunately, I no longer live near a big city. I live in a very rural and rather conservative area. But, I also was posting for others that might have the same question so it is good that there is an answer when living in big cities.

If you have a regular doctor you might try them out. That is if you have a good doctor patient relationship.

Unfortunately, as I said, I live in a conservative place. Most people here would probably frown on what I do, including my doctor. I went in, one time, because I started lactating, and the doctor made me take a pregnancy test (even though I knew I wasn't pregnant). She simply would not (could not) believe that I could start lactating without being pregnant. But, she tested it and it was and she was sort of in shock. So, I don't know how well the "BDSM talk" would go with her. LOL She is a very good doctor but many doctors (and many people) can't deal with anything out of the realm of their all knowing comfort zone.

[MrJerseyGuy]

My sister is a doctor and also has played on the swinger's scene somewhat. We talk quite openly and from what I gather you would be hard pressed to find an experienced doctor who hasn't "seen it all" They seem to look at things from a very "clinical standpoint". You'd probably be surprised at how well your doctor would take any bdsm question...and hopefully not, but injuries as well.

[redEva]

MrJerseyGuy,

While I do agree with you that most doctors “have seen it all” if nowhere else than at least in the books, it does not mean that they are comfortable dealing with it.

I went in, one time, because I started lactating, and the doctor made me take a pregnancy test (even though I knew I wasn't pregnant). She simply would not (could not) believe that I could start lactating without being pregnant. But, she tested it and it was and she was sort of in shock. So, I don't know how well the "BDSM talk" would go with her. LOL She is a very good doctor but many doctors (and many people) can't deal with anything out of the realm of their all knowing comfort zone.

The fact that that they do know (doubtless) that it is possible to lactate without prior pregnancy, that there are hormonal disorders that will have lactation as side effect – obviously did not help much in dealing with it. Now … I was interested in inducing lactation as a part of play – fetish. How well do you thing that would go?

Just because they are professionals does not mean that they agree, approve or are embracing alternative life styles. There is still way to many medical professionals that believe all masochists and Sadists need psychological treatment (help).

So, in short, I understand where Dslave is coming from, it is great that your sister is open minded – but please do not assume all doctors are.

[BDSM_Tourguide]

I swear by Apollo the physician, by Æsculapius, Hygeia, and Panacea, and I take to witness all the gods, all the goddesses, to keep according to my ability and my judgement, the following Oath.


"To consider dear to me as my parents him who taught me this art; to live in common with him and if necessary to share my goods with him; to look upon his children as my own brothers, to teach them this art if they so desire without fee or written promise; to impart to my sons and the sons of the master who taught me and the disciples who have enrolled themselves and have agreed to the rules of the profession, but to these alone the precepts and the instruction. I will prescribe regimen for the good of my patients according to my ability and my judgement and never do harm to anyone. To please no one will I prescribe a deadly drug nor give advice which may cause his death. Nor will I give a woman a pessary to procure abortion. But I will preserve the purity of my life and my art. I will not cut for stone, even for patients in whom the disease is manifest; I will leave this operation to be performed by practitioners, specialists in this art. In every house where I come I will enter only for the good of my patients, keeping myself far from all intentional ill-doing and all seduction and especially from the pleasures of love with women or with men, be they free or slaves. All that may come to my knowledge in the exercise of my profession or in daily commerce with men, which ought not to be spread abroad, I will keep secret and will never reveal. If I keep this oath faithfully, may I enjoy my life and practice my art, respected by all men and in all times; but if I swerve from it or violate it, may the reverse be my lot."


This oath is still taken by all physicians today. The first bold text section means that they will treat any condition they can to the best of their ability and the best of their judgement. The second section says that the physician will keep secret anything that you bring with you into his office.

So, a physician might recommend someone get psychological help, but he cannot refue to treat a patient because of whatever lifestyle that patient leads.

[slavelucy]

But on the bright side she did give me sticker with a tiger on it saying “I was brave for my needle” LOL

ROFL!! Awww, *i* got no such sticker at *my* last jab..*pouts*

i think you make a good point tho red. i agree that as society becomes increasingly permissive, it seems silly that a doctor would be weird about piercings, tatoo's etc, wherever they my be (the piercings and tats, not the doctor!)...and equally i think this should extend to different lifestyle choices, particularly as it becomes increasingly apparent that pleasure/pain is not something completely odd, as a concept and hence i think people should be able to go and ask advice on a particular issue providing they were going to explain it was consensual etc (plus, how many people who were actually being abused would actually go to the doctor for advice on treating an injury...sadly, not many). i agree though that it still wouldn't be a wholly good idea, or all that appropriate, to turn up for a physical exam or something covered in bruises/whip marks/burns/rope marks/whatever (delete as appropriate).

This is an interesting point though, and something i pondered over recently when i had to go to docs for something...and before that when someone mentioned in a post (might have been katmandu, not sure) that they didn't go to heavy on something in a scene, because they were due for an exam at the docs the next day.

sl

[Barton]

Yes, that was Kats. She had a week of exams and we did not her to be bruised. One of the doctors we know, and it would not have been a problem, but the rest were all new. As I said above, in this state they arrest first and ask questions later.

Barton

[slavelucy]

Yes, that was Kats. She had a week of exams and we did not her to be bruised. One of the doctors we know, and it would not have been a problem, but the rest were all new. As I said above, in this state they arrest first and ask questions later.

Oh yeah, i know..i was only using what Kats said as the post that initially made me consider the issue.

sl

[Dslave]

This is an interesting point though, and something i pondered over recently when i had to go to docs for something...and before that when someone mentioned in a post (might have been katmandu, not sure) that they didn't go to heavy on something in a scene, because they were due for an exam at the docs the next day.

I do essentially the same thing. Though, I have been somewhat extreme in my life and it has left permanent scars and I have slipped my way through with a list of preset explanations (preplanned lies) as to not arouse too much suspicion. As for current or fresh markings, Master is just really careful right before I have to go in to see the doctor. But, I do occasionally panic that I may have to go to the emergency room (not bdsm related but say the day after a rough scene) or to see the doctor the next day unexpectedly and it would make it easier if I had a doctor that I knew "understood" about the nature of these things. Now, if I know I am going to have an appointment, I make sure I have all my "excuses" in order and my Master does his best not to add any extra suspicious marks. Myself, I would love to have some extreme body modification (not talking piercings or tats here) but I am too scared to do it not because of the extremeness but, at this point, for fear that it would bring up more questions. I just do what I can to keep from arousing suspicion but it sure would be easier if I had someone as a doctor that understood.