Just wondering

[Stephie]

Hi i was wondering is it bad to get attached quickly?? I have this habit of getting attached really easily i was wondering if this is bad in this lifestyle...any advice of help is much appreciated....thanks so much Stephie

[IAN 2411]

Hi i was wondering is it bad to get attached quickly?? I have this habit of getting attached really easily i was wondering if this is bad in this lifestyle...any advice of help is much appreciated....thanks so much Stephie

Attached to Who, What, How, When and Why

[Stephie]

to no on in praticular....i just get attached very easily to ppl....i dont really know why i get attached i just do....

[denuseri]

Without knowing what context your speaking about it is hard to give you advice.

Are you getting attached to some online person you cant really know calling themselves a dom who wants you to reveal your personal information and or do web cam sessions?

Or are you getting attached to your gynocologist?

[angelic.zest]

I will add to what den stated. When you are online you have to becareful, because we really dont know who's on the other end of the pc montior and it can be a bad thing in this lifestyle as it would be in any other lifestyle.

[Ozme52]

It really depends on a few factors.

Are you easily hurt when relationships fall apart? If so, then take more time finding the right potential partners. The highs in our lifestyle tend to be higher, so the lows can be lower. Being "abandoned" by your dominant is one of the lowest of the lows... so you should try to avoid that.

Are you taking precautions to ensure your safety even when making fast friends? If so, it's less of a concern.

Are you new to this lifestyle? If so, again, take more time. There are both well meaning wannabe and new dominants who may not be as up front about their status early on, and noobs with noobs can lead to mistakes that can range from driving you away from the site to (the extreme) driving you away in an ambulance.... and there are predators who prey on new submissives, some will use you and dump you, some will mistrain you to accept abusive practices.

And then... all that aside, if you have good instincts and get all the right vibes, while I still suggest proceeding with caution, don't let opportunity knock at your door unanswered... (you can ask jeanne about opportunities not squandered. )