Ideas!! Need help

[jo.jo3125]

I'm a submissive/slave and wondering what are some punishments you have given or have recieved yourself!!

[Lisais mine]

well, cum restriction with hourly masturbation seems like a good punishment

[DarkPachuco]

One of my favorites is making her spend the day speaking only in the third person.

[snowflake]

hmm made to put on a tight crotch rope most of the day and do my normal chores

or made to put on nipple clamps tight for 15 mins take them off for 15 mins then back on for 15 mins and so on .. after awhile she won't want to put them back on

[Crovack]

Punishment of Silence: She cannot speak in your presence for a period of time determined by you. She can communicate non-verbally, but not through use of words in any form (no writing/typing/charades/etc.)

Cum Restriction: Cum restrictions with any kind of stimulation can be of great use. Particularly when you force her to still please you.

The key to many punishments is not just taking something away, but also reinforcing the desire for it. Making them skip lunch may seem like a light punishment till you cook something that smells amazing and eat it in front of them. The key is: what does your sub enjoy most. The best punishments are suited uniquely to the sub, and while some are easy to share as common desires (almost all subs want to speak, cum and eat during the day), the better you can custom fit your punishment to the crime and the sub the more effective it will be.

[fetishdj]

Punishments need to be personal and specific to both the person and the situation. It is no good beating a masochist - a true masochist finds pleasure in pain and so are being rewarded not punished. I generally advocate using your initial negotiation before you start a relationship to put together a list of punishments and rewards based on what the sub says are their hard limits, soft limits, likes and dislikes. Some take this further and have complicated contracts with lists of misdeeds and the appropriate punishment.

For pretty much any sub, though, ignoring them is the best method. Get them to sit in the corner, facing the wall for a period of time. Stop playing, take off the sexy clothes you may wear for sessions and dress normally. Tell them that the play session you had planned that evening is now cancelled. This is a true punishment of misbehaviour because by being punished they do not get what they want. Often a sub will play up in order to get attention and a punishment they like.

Of course there needs to be a distinction between genuine punishment and 'play' punishment. Sometimes a BDSM couple will jokingly talk about bad behaviour needing a spanking or similar - thats basically BDSM flirting.

[singletaillover]

@Darkpachuco well that punishment would be no good for me as i always speak as the third person example. Master can slave have permission to give Master a full body massage as slave would love to Master the worse punishment for me if Master ignored me and did not speak to me for a week

[leah06]

I'm a submissive/slave and wondering what are some punishments you have given or have recieved yourself!!

Why are you wondering this?