Is a dominant ever wrong in a situation?

[TeasedWhispers]

How does a submissive deal with a situation if she thinks the one training her is wrong with it and how should she deal with that? Lately I've felt that way but I don't know how to deal with this specific situation that is happenin,hoping I could get some advice here.

[Mobius]

What is the situation.

We are all after all human and suject to error. If he/she is wrong then you have 2 choices do what he/she says and when the error is found he/she will be humilitated by there own error. Witch you will probly be punished for. Or you could speak candid with her by using a safe word out side of Bdsm and discuss it.

Just a thought I can not give 100 percent advice becouse I do not know your situation.

Moby

[TeasedWhispers]

Thank you for the response I recently joined this site because of the stories, they are very creative but right now I have other things on my mind. This dominant has been training me the last five months and we were dating, but we also decided to leave our options open...we've been getting emotional with one another to a point...but he has been scared to getting too close with me because he doesn't want either of us getting hurt in the end. In the past he told me that he dated alot of submissives in the past who had problems and I told him I understand that...he says I am the only submissive who was more stable. Anyways he recently told me his ex came to him for help...and he told me she needed a place to stay, he didn't tell me anything about the situation. He just said he hopes we can still be as we are that he still wanted to be close....he kept saying that...it felt like he was apologizing for something. It felt like he knew something is going to happen...it just confuses me...he knows in the end I don't want something poly..and he knows I tend to be a romantic even though I am a submissive. We live about an hour away, we don't have a full time comittment, but we talk to one another all the time...I haven't been talking to him. I got the advice from someone to avoid him...til he see things clearly. But I don't know if that is the right thing to do. Any opinions?

What is the situation.

We are all after all human and suject to error. If he/she is wrong then you have 2 choices do what he/she says and when the error is found he/she will be humilitated by there own error. Witch you will probly be punished for. Or you could speak candid with her by using a safe word out side of Bdsm and discuss it.

Just a thought I can not give 100 percent advice becouse I do not know your situation.

Moby

[Mobius]

Thank you for the response I recently joined this site because of the stories, they are very creative but right now I have other things on my mind. This dominant has been training me the last five months and we were dating, but we also decided to leave our options open...we've been getting emotional with one another to a point...but he has been scared to getting too close with me because he doesn't want either of us getting hurt in the end. In the past he told me that he dated alot of submissives in the past who had problems and I told him I understand that...he says I am the only submissive who was more stable. Anyways he recently told me his ex came to him for help...and he told me she needed a place to stay, he didn't tell me anything about the situation. He just said he hopes we can still be as we are that he still wanted to be close....he kept saying that...it felt like he was apologizing for something. It felt like he knew something is going to happen...it just confuses me...he knows in the end I don't want something poly..and he knows I tend to be a romantic even though I am a submissive. We live about an hour away, we don't have a full time comittment, but we talk to one another all the time...I haven't been talking to him. I got the advice from someone to avoid him...til he see things clearly. But I don't know if that is the right thing to do. Any opinions?

I am sorry to say that it is tough to be the rebound girl. He still has feelings for the X she has problems he volunteered to help she is back with him.

Your an hour away you get advice to stay away. (give him space)

I am sorry to say that to me is the recipy for them to get back together. He is going to deni and blather but in the end if you snuck up on them 1+1 you get it.

I"m thinking move on and if he wants to continue then he comes back to you not the other way around.

Dr moby puts away the white coat and goes back to peenut galory.

Your always welcome in the dungeon want a Collar?

[TeasedWhispers]

I can understand if he wants to move on but I think he is only trying to keep his options open because he doesn't want to feel emotionally...I have been avoiding him but now he is starting to contact me more...asking if I am all right.....etc.....if I want to talk to him. I just am frustrated and its confusing to know what to do

I am sorry to say that it is tough to be the rebound girl. He still has feelings for the X she has problems he volunteered to help she is back with him.

Your an hour away you get advice to stay away. (give him space)

I am sorry to say that to me is the recipy for them to get back together. He is going to deni and blather but in the end if you snuck up on them 1+1 you get it.

I"m thinking move on and if he wants to continue then he comes back to you not the other way around.

Dr moby puts away the white coat and goes back to peenut galory.

Your always welcome in the dungeon want a Collar?

[Chuckdom19]

The way his planning sounds, it seems to me he is already planning for the relationship to end. "Keeping your options open" is a license for him to see whoever he pleases, while he keeps you on the shelf in case it doesn't work out. The ex moving in is a HUGE red flag, if you want a personal relationship.

A solid relationship is established when people plan for the future, not when people plan for failure.

And yes, on the thread topic, Doms certainly can be wrong. That's why caring people still need safe words! You need to sit down with him and have a long, heart to heart talk. Tell him it's person-to-person, not sub to dom, and open up your heart.

That may be the only way to get him to open up his. But prepare yourself; you may not like the answer you get.

This does not sound like an easy situation. Sending good thoughts to you to give you strength and some inner peace.

chksng