K and Me...

[MMark]

Man, this is gonna hurt, but, it's something that I need to do. I only talked with K for two weeks, but in those two weeks, we connected more to each other than we were able to connect to some we've known our entire lives.
K and I were two of the same... We both excelled at whatever we wanted bad enough, neither would take 'no' for an answer unless that's the answer we wanted. So, hard as it was, I made it a point to keep sex out of the discussion for the first week... I was in that use 'em and lose 'em stage that a lot of guys seem to go through. I didn't want that with K. She was one of the girls I can honestly say I wanted to keep from the start.
So, we kept to politics, careers, bdsm. For somebody so smart, I'm still at a loss of how she could be so liberal. But, in a way, I guess that just made her more appealing. We had made it into a kind of joke, if we were to get together--that is, if Fate decided to give us a chance--she'd have to wear a gag and ear plugs so we wouldn't fight. I mean, you can't be in completely perfect harmony, can you?
Careers. K was trying to get into a prominent school for acting, wanting to be a Broadway actress. She did get a request from the school for her to audition for them, though she said she was having problems with her parents about it. Well, I told her I wanted to be a career Marine. She mentioned that her dad was in the Corps, and after the few days of her changing her schedule to meet mine, she said he wanted to meet me. Though I never had that chance. I wonder if things would have been different if I had insisted on at least saying hi to him...
Her school had a dance coming up and her friends were pushing her to go with an ex. One of their arguments was "It's not like you have anybody else." Well, K was wearing a choker at the time, and decided she did have somebody else. She ended up coming out of the closet with them, telling them she was submissive, and the choker was a sign of her submission, even if, in all actuality, it meant nothing to her or me. Though I'm not sure exactly what she told them. I didn't think anything of it... The choker meant nothing, it was a way for her to get her friends off her back about going to the dance with this creep. Maybe I should've put an end to that right there?
Her drama teacher was meeting with her mother about the problems with K auditioning for the school she wanted to go to. The night before K's mother was supposed to meet the teacher, the teacher brought up K's choker, and whatever liberal BS feminist philosophies she held about female empowerment and not being held as a sex object. The ultimate irony in liberalism: Always preach choice and acceptance, but never accept a choice you don't agree with. When the teacher talked with K's mother, she also told her about K's interest in BDSM.
I came in from work Saturday morning looking forward to my hour with Kat. The one girl who I knew was able to understand me, put up with whatever gripes and moans I had about the night before, and then challenge me to move past yesterday and into tomorrow. That didn't happen. I found a letter from her in my in-box, saying that her parents didn't agree with the Lifestyle, and they were forbidding her from talking to me. She was having coomputer problems the other morning, so I had given her my mailing address, just in case. She had left it on her desk and her dad took that from her.
Ouch. Yeah, that hurts, but I had to get it out so the rest of ya'll can kind of know where I'm coming from. So, what's a guy to do now? Comments, suggestions? Anybody want to go to a high school play? I'm 95% sure of the high school, but need some way to confirm.
So, do I push her in the back of my mind and wait for her to contact me? Take a chance and write c/o the counselor at the school? Wait until we're a little older and go break whatever rules I need to in order to get back in touch with her? Anybody? Thanks.

[Wontworry]

This probably isn't what you want to hear, but I would say remember how good it was and move on.

If she feels the same way you do, she will get back in touch - if she doesn't then it's a shame, but it's best left. You don't know how much of what she has said is true (sorry if that hurts but it's true, you don't) and you may be walking into a situation that neither you or her would want.

[ProjectEuropa]

I second WW.

You will only makes things worse and not make things better by pursuing her. Move on and if she contacts you in the future, take it from there.

[Barton]

It's time to be somewhere else!

[albear]

As much as your heart is breaking right now (and believe me, I know how it feels!) I think the best thing to do is move on. For now. If it's meant to be (geez I hate that phrase) then I'm sure the two of you will catch up later when she's at a station in her life where she can decide for herself what she wants without outside input.

Sometimes people come into your life for a reason. Maybe your relationship has run it's course, served it's purpose, or maybe it's just beginning and this is a mere plotpoint. Don't get your mental knickers in a twist about it though.

Here's to silent heartbreak hey? :straight:

[Sir Lanceloth]

ill just say i agree with the other replies, no other option im afraid.

[Nightstriker]

Here is something that I have not heard in any of the times that circumstances have happened to break my heart and some times is needed to be said.


THAT FUCKING SUCKS!!!.

I personally would try and find her. Talk to her, and ask her in person if what she said was true. If you are convinced that it is, then you may have to just try and educate her parents on how BDSM is just a diffrent way of loveing someone. There are a good many books out there as well as tons of articles here and on other sites about it.