What was the first submissive thing you did?

[LadyAmanda]

When you first decided to follow the d/s lifestyle, what was the first thing you did, or had done to you?

Was it a little bit of light bondage? Or a spanking? Or maybe you were ordered to please your dom. with no pleasure for you?

There seem to be some people here that are fairly new to this, and I just thought we could give them some ideas ...

[BruceBoxer]

First thing I was urged publically to do as a Dom was to apply liquid latex to a suspended sub at the Phoenix Society in Baltimore--I was hooked--not on the latex though--applying it was great but I'd prefer warm baby oil...

Originally posted by LadyAmanda
When you first decided to follow the d/s lifestyle, what was the first thing you did, or had done to you?

Was it a little bit of light bondage? Or a spanking? Or maybe you were ordered to please your dom. with no pleasure for you?

There seem to be some people here that are fairly new to this, and I just thought we could give them some ideas ...

[kittenfemme]

I'm a smart ass. I've always been. I acted up with one of my boyfriends whom I knew was into SM to try and get myself into a little trouble. It worked all too well! He grabbed my hair, put me over his knee, spanked the hell out of my little bottom, tied me to a bed with silk scarves, and fucked me senseless. I loved it! The feeling of helplessness... of being objectified... of submitting to his will for his pleasure... I was addicted to those things immediately. I had to have more.

[AmandasSpankee]

The first submissive thing I did was give LadyAmanda a slipper, and ask her to spank me with it.

She did it, but she was so upset about 'hurting' me that she ended up in tears. I didn't, she hardly even hurt me with it.

Ah, we've come a long way, Baby!

Sylvie - who should have bronzed that slipper ...

[Kostly]

My 2nd fiance' use to stradle my head and fuck my face with her pussy.

I remember I would masterbate and cum immediately... That was a major accomplishment for me, I never cum easily...

[pam]

I was hog-tied on my knees, blindfolded, gagged, and left that way for a while while he sat in a chair and observed me. When he was happy and I was untied (and extremely sore), I had to write an essay on how I felt.

It took hours to do, because I could not sit comfortably, my legs were so sore, my arms were shaking and I was in mental turmoil.

Obviously I wrote something right, as we were together nearly 7 years (he died).

[~d~]

*soft smile*...

His first order was to "calm down".... and i did... i'm not sure He was talking to my soul...but that was what His words calmed...and in that moment he became my Master...

*grin* he was giving me my safe words ... and offering to be my Dom....when it happened...

[Finding_Fantasy]

You know, that is a tough question to answer for me. It was kind of a whirlwind of activity. Not only did I move from Canada from the town I had always lived in of 10,000 people to moving to Houston USA, a city of 6 million to meet a person I had only talked to online. I guess that in itself would be a submissive move.

Then he slapped a collar on me right there in the airport lol. You should have seen the looks on people's faces as he led us through the airport to the car on leashes!

[kittenfemme]

Originally posted by Finding_Fantasy
he slapped a collar on me right there in the airport lol. You should have seen the looks on people's faces as he led us through the airport to the car on leashes!

*SWOON!* Oh, that's fantastic!

My first is boring comparatively. All I did was agree to be tied to a bed.

[Finding_Fantasy]

(chuckles) Well it was definitely an eye opening experience. It was a bit strange especially since it was the first thing I had done in real life. Since then, I have seen and done a bit more. Some of what I have seen I cringe at the thought of!

I am by no means hardcore but it was a good start.

[feisty sub]

As an eight year old I enticed a friend to tie me to a chair in the attic room we were playing in, and said it was a 'charlies angels' type game...if I could struggle to get free, I won. I then (full of the folly of youth) also asked her to put a plastic bag on my head to make it more 'interesting'. She went downstairs to watch Scooby Doo and was busy watching Daphne capture the villain when she heard a thump from upstairs. This was a semi conscious me falling over in the chair. She untied me but was a bit surprised that I didnt cry and tell her I didnt want to be her friend any more. In fact, she got invited over quite a lot after that *s*

[TenderFlesh]

Well, Charlies Angels was a bit ahead of my time - but I most definitely played 'cops & robbers!' I always made sure to be the one that got kidnapped, and my rescuer always had to kiss me when I was free. Guys or girls I didn't care! My parent's never thought much of it that I know of....but my mom never could find that silk scarf again!

[feisty sub]

charlies anels ahead of your time?
gosh...i suddenlyfeel decrepid lol.

I remember stirrings down below when any of the angels got chloroformed..the 'hmmmph hmmmmph' then the descent into sleepiness, and waking up gagged and bound.....grooooooan

[deepti699]

Hello Everyone, i am very new to this forum, infact this is my first post.

To answer the question, i guess the first submisive thing i did was not wear panties to work for the first time.

i was always conscious about it and had a difficult time keeping a straight face at work.

love,
deepti sinha

[Nikita]

Hello Everyone, i am very new to this forum, infact this is my first post.

To answer the question, i guess the first submisive thing i did was not wear panties to work for the first time.

i was always conscious about it and had a difficult time keeping a straight face at work.

love,
deepti sinha

Deepti:

Did your DOM or DOMME ask you to not wear panties? If so, you must have thought about doing it anyway. It really isn't too submissive, is it?

Slaves have some degree of control over what they are asked to do, overtly or not. I guess you asked for this in some way, n'est pas? :goldcup:

I go without panties ALL the time. Once menopause hit, I got real bold and had all the hair on my pussy lasered. (They say menopause has a lot of benefits! :strip1: ) My husband freaks every time we go out. Usually I wear a dress. Now he finds it very hot. If he really wanted to make me submit, he'd force me to wear panties.

Let me know if you secretly desired to do this?

Nikita

[pam]

Originally posted by feisty sub
As an eight year old I enticed a friend to tie me to a chair in the attic room we were playing in, and said it was a 'charlies angels' type game...if I could struggle to get free, I won. I then (full of the folly of youth) also asked her to put a plastic bag on my head to make it more 'interesting'. She went downstairs to watch Scooby Doo and was busy watching Daphne capture the villain when she heard a thump from upstairs. This was a semi conscious me falling over in the chair. She untied me but was a bit surprised that I didnt cry and tell her I didnt want to be her friend any more. In fact, she got invited over quite a lot after that *s*

Nice to see I'm not the only one with an interest in plastic bags

[feisty sub]

pam.....you and me both

i could write a book.....if only i could catch enough breath to do it
lol
x

[bearbeast]

finially after all these years i have found someone to "take away" my inner pain and explore many avenues, at present it's only been a week and we have made outfits and restraints and had some fun. it does help that my Mistress Rhiannon knows how to work leather, but not just that but in all sorts of material from wood to metal. we have come up with a number of ideas, but some of it has to wait until we move and get a bigger place (oh keep your fingers crossed) we have just been given a brick shed (oh I've been thinking it's not really that big to put stuff in I've had a grin on me all day.
bye bye for now.

[cts81]

After many years of being a sub (only in my head) I told my husband. That was about a week ago we "played" with the idea in the bedroom a first but last night was the first time we stayed in the dom/sub roles out side of foreplay (although the whole experiance was like forplay to me). He told me first of all to take all my clothes off. After that I had to ask his permission for everything ie could I have a drink, cigerette etc... sometimes he said yes sometimes he said no. If I tried to reason with him he would tell me to shut up, once he made me turn round and touch my toes while he spanked me. He also made me stand at the back door naked (our nieghbours could of seen me) when I treid to cover myself up he pushed me further owards the door and threaten to make me stand out in the yard if I didn't do as I was told. I loved every minute of it I love him dommming me more than I even thought I would.

[Desdemon]

Hmmm. I'd always enjoyed being restraned by my bf's, but never felt particularly submissive about it. Usually I was the one making the suggestions, etc. So I've only recently begun discovering my submissivness. I think the first concious thing I did was the first time he had me call him Sir. It took me a couple of times to catch onto what he was expecting, and the tone in his voice...., once I finally caught on, when I said 'Yes, Sir.', well, I realized that this had begun to mean more to me than just a bit of spicy sex. I'd used the term, half jokingly, in email many times, but never in person.

Saying it still makes me feel extremely vulnerable...

[tkk098]

It's been a while since i've posted. Might as well post here. Anyway, earliest submissive things i can remember all involved getting tied up somehow. I just have some sense of wanting it to happen, thus it does. First actual thing besides that, wound up, unfortunately, being a guy 3 years younger than me. We were both teens at the time. I lost a bet, and if i lost, i was supposed to suck him. Well, my sub. instincts were kicking in, and i didnt really want to be a 'sore loser'. (Kinda sounds corny). So I did it that night, then I wound up doing it willingly several times afterwards (different nights, ofcorse).

Well. That's kinda awkward to get out. Anyway, i'm just bisexual. I dont consider myself a gay person, since i'm attracted to girls.

[jaro_99]

Oh that is wonderful! Really...I guess you felt some relief as well at him taking the news so well *grin* I wonder whether at some point you were regretting telling him at all!!!

Congrats - obviously you both share something very special.

[subbabe]

I'm fairly new to the idea of BDSM, but have received lots of spankings, and been tied up while submitting to various sexual acts. Interested in cautious experiment and now have a new Master to train me and show me the way.

subbabe

[vanessaevans69]

It was when I went for the interview to be the housekeeper for my now Master. I was told to strip off. As my new Master inspected my body he told me that I would have to shave my pubes. This was the first time that I had been naked in front of a man other than my father and my Doctor and I had never even considered shaving. It was soooo embarrassing.
Now that I am a permanent sub I am so pleased that I submitted rather than running.

Vanessa

[christa897]

There's just nothing like the first time someone bends you over the furniture and gives you a good hard spanking.
That was the first one, and there have been many more since.

[Shellyfemme]

Originally posted by LadyAmanda
When you first decided to follow the d/s lifestyle, what was the first thing you did, or had done to you?

Was it a little bit of light bondage? Or a spanking? Or maybe you were ordered to please your dom. with no pleasure for you?

There seem to be some people here that are fairly new to this, and I just thought we could give them some ideas ...

My first D/ s experience was getting into trouble. My contract started at midnight on Febuary 18th 2003. My Mistress called me in the morning and what were the first words out of my mouth. (Hay baby good morning) *blush*

[kamuishima]

I first got into an bdsm relationship when I was seventeen. My boyfriend ordered that I strip down naked and lie on the living room floor. I agreed and completed my task. He then proceeded to shave me of all of my hair. He then took a large dildo and inserted it into me dry. It was a shock since he had never physically touched me before. I cried in pain since I was virgin and it hurt a great deal. I begged him to take it out of me but he said no and tied me to the futon and left me there for three hours. At first I was angry and humiliated but after a while I became used to it.

[kittenfemme]

Originally posted by Shellyfemme
My first D/ s experience was getting into trouble. My contract started at midnight on Febuary 18th 2003. My Mistress called me in the morning and what were the first words out of my mouth. (Hay baby good morning) *blush*

At least it wasn't as bad as trying to get my goat by calling your collar "stupid."

[Shellyfemme]

Originally posted by kittenfemme
At least it wasn't as bad as trying to get my goat by calling your collar "stupid."

hang head down in shame

It will never ever happen again.

[sub_karla]

the first thing i did as a submissive was at 14 when my boufriend (who was 16) took me out in his truck and tired me naked in the rear as he drove through town/