The little things...

[Silke]

I've just read a wonderful task report at the Academy that made me smile and also started my think tank running.

The basic idea was to conciously please your Master/Mistress a certain number of times throughout the day. Now, while I'm sure this sounds simple enough at first glance, I thought it was a wonderful idea to become more aware of what it is that makes our SO happy and in turn what are the little things that put a smile on our own faces, get that warm feeling inside, etc. Do we even realise it most of the time? And do we let our partners know how they made us happy with just a glance, a touch, a word...?

So, for the subs - what is it that you do to please your Dom/mes? Anything counts! And what in return makes you a happy sub?

And for the Dom/mes - What puts a smile on your face? And do you know what little things make your sub's heart leap with joy?

Those are just a few guideline questions that I had in mind...I'm looking forward to whatever input you may have. Wishing you many happy thoughts and maybe just an idea or two...

Silke

[Tojo]

The little things...mean so much.

Emails in the morning, wearing something for me one night a week.

Making me laugh, giving me feelings I've never had.

Knowing I can give her something she needs.

As for what makes her heart leap, well I can only hope it's the fact that I care. That I'm there for her & love her no matter what.

Tojo

[katie_21]

The little things...mean so much.

Emails in the morning, wearing something for me one night a week.

Making me laugh, giving me feelings I've never had.

Knowing I can give her something she needs.

As for what makes her heart leap, well I can only hope it's the fact that I care. That I'm there for her & love her no matter what.

Tojo

It is the fact that you care

And I also love making you laugh!!!

[Avarice]

Frikkin' awe. What a good task I might write down all the things my creature does for me that make my heart smile, then randomly hide it someplace where he'll find it. ...If it doesn't convince him that I've done something wrong and make him completely paranoid, anyhow >>

when he kisses my knees

when he says, "would you like me to run you a hot bath?" when I know he's really thinking, "fuck, she's PMS'ing again"

how he returns movies to the rental place because he knows i'll forget

the way he gets really into his reading and sometimes mouths the words

how he laughs when the baby makes a face at him

how he squirms when i tie him to the bed and sit on his face

Ah, l'amour

[Silke]

The little things...mean so much.

Oh yes...I couldn't agree more! To me it's basically what keeps two people together. It's not the big present for a birthday or the super surprise, but it's what makes me feel good, appreciated, cared for, loved throughout each and every day. There have been enough times where I forgot those little things, they just faded into the back of my mind and I took them for granted. That's one of the reasons I opened this thread...I think looking at what I can do to make my SO happy and what I get in return works some strange magic.

And I love the "little things" that all of you guys have come up with so far...makes me smile, too. Thanks for sharing and keep 'em coming!

[_ID_]

What makes me happy that she does? Thats a very difficult question to narrow down to put into a post.

When she makes me coffee in the morning.
When she snuggles to me at night.
When she cleans the house for me, things are just so much more enjoyable to come home to that way.
When she cleans my clothes.
When she does her little pouting thing, trying to get me to agree to something.
When she wants to go on walks with me.
When she compliments me on my accomplishments, regardless of how little and insignifcant they are.
When she submits to me, all of her stubborness and assertivness gone, and she is mine to enjoy how I want.

These are just a few of the things that I can think of that I enjoy, that makes me happy, that she does.

V/R
ID

[Ruby]

Today, it was all about cuddling with Nat after our wonderful playtime yesterday.

Cuddling, giggling, give each other our undivided attention, then being distracted by life and being able to laugh about it.

In the end, it's always the little things that make our relationship stronger.

Sharing our hopes, dreams, fears and fantasies.

Receiving a special e-mail, just because.

Opening my snail mail box and finding a movie or book that he selected just for me.

Viva the little things!

[His_pita]

Oh I like this topic! Things I love that my Dom does to make me happy are:

~The way he wakes me up in the morning with such patience and then goes to make my cup of tea.
~The feel of that first morning hug and kiss as he tells me what the weather is going to be.
~That he is always so supportive and attentive during our workouts making sure that I am doing OK and motivating me to keep going.
~The way he tells me what to do when it's time to play and the aftercare he gives me once were done.
~Sitting on the deck, drinking our tea, and holding hands after we have had dinner.
~Hanging out in our computer room together in the evenings.
~The way he treats me like I'm smart and worth so much effort.
~The way he stops in the middle of a sentence to tell me that I'm beautiful.
~Going to bed at the same time with him curled around my back, with his cock pressed against my bare ass and his hand wrapped around one of my breast.
~How he whispers how much he loves me and tells me that he will own me forever.

[Silke]

Ok, time for me to add something I kept a low profile because I didn't think I could add a lot. But just today I've realised how the little things have invaded my life...and I'm so happy about it.

The way he sneaks up on me when I least expect it.
That he finds something positive even when I think I messed everything up.
That we can laugh a lot together - he always brings a smile to my face.
The way he quietly entered my life, step by step, without me even being aware of it until I was in way over my head.
That he always gets worried when I take too long to get back to him after play. (We're online, can't really blame him, I guess)
The first time he called me his little girl.

*sighs* and so much more.

Sweet dreams everyone! *smiles*

[Tojo]

It's so nice to see the D/s community isn't all about whips & chains- that the level of caring seems to be more complete than in a straight relationship.

Oh no, I'm still a romantic, there's no hope for me....

Tojo

[Warbaby1943]

It's so nice to see the D/s community isn't all about whips & chains- that the level of caring seems to be more complete than in a straight relationship.

Oh no, I'm still a romantic, there's no hope for me....

Tojo

Tojo,

Though my wife and I do not have a D/s relationship we do do most of the things mentioned in this thread for each other. It just seem the correct things to do when their is a bond of love between two people that is so strong it endures the test of time. Over 40 years now and we are still doing for each other whatever it takes to keep us happy and we are doing them without hesitation or even thinking about what we are doing for each other. It just sort of comes naturally and it is .

I believe you have the same type of commitment and relationship with your wife so I know you'll understand what I am saying is, in fact, true.

[MsUther]

All those little things you have posted, you have made my heart soft and my chest warm

He is my Dom in my mind, he just havnt realised that he is yet. Oh i so hope im not wrong about him.

Here`s a few:

- When he ask about the well being of my family
- When i see that he holds his breath and bites hes lip when he sees me
- The way hes face is tuned in and focused on me
- When he stole back the chocolate he just so sensually had shared with me
- When he washes my long hair in the shower
- When he told me he had been looking at me sitting infront of my laptop, pretending he was a sleep on my sofa
- The way he`s eyes gets heavy and soft when he shares his food with me
- When he is right and i admit it and i see his eyes filles with emotions



I had an online Dom about six months - a year ago. What pleased me most was when after i had done what he told me to and i was in limbo waiting for his response, he filled my world with words of comfort and expressing how pleased he was with my submissivness to him. Thats probably a little off topic, cause its no small thingy, but it wanted to be said
And the explotion of emotions in that moment makes my throat feel tight just thinking about it.
And when he e-mailed me from across the world telling me he was going to have to do a double shift at work and was going to be a little late, i was sold.



I look forward to follow this lovely thread

[mina]

Aww yes I love the little things too. This thread is so adorable, I was smiling as I read everyone’s responses so far. I have to add to this too. Here are some of the little things he does that bring a smile to my face:

-When he randomly brings me cute desserts like strawberry shortcake and eats the rest when I can’t finish it.
-How sometimes he’ll call me during lunch at school to ask if I want to come home early because he misses me.
-How he tells me to “shut the fuck up” when I say I look ugly and then tells me I always look beautiful.
-When he tells me things in french and doesn’t explain what it means, leaving me to guess whether it’s romantic or really dirty.
-How he switches between french and english when addressing me.
-When he smiles at my silly drawings.
-Cuddling! And how he has his arm over me when we’re in bed.
-The way he cleans me up after “intensive play”.
-When I don’t have to explain to him why I’m upset because he already knows.

Silke – I’m happy for you that you’ve found someone who makes you feel like that. Sounds wonderful.

MsUther – I hope he turns out to be the Dom you want too! He sounds pretty great from what you’ve said.

I hope more people add onto this thread – it’s really fun to read!

[Tojo]

Well seeing as you guys are all mushy, I'll add one.

She's not my sub- yet- but she will be someday. I talk to her every day, & if her boyfriend is there she emails me.

I told her I was sad because of something with another of my girls. She probably thought 'You're better off without the bitch' but instead was understanding & caring.

After I logged off & checked my mailbox I found a card with 'sending you a warm hug' from her.

She's really something.

Tojo

[shins]

I like this thread It's a pleasant thing to see so early in the morning.

- When she asks how my day is going and i know she really wants to know.
- When she flirts with me and gets my blood boiling.
- When she provokes a secret from me and accepts it as a part of me without judgement.
- When i see her packrat tendencies and i and know that she really does intend on using the things somehow, someday.
- When she goes out of her way to spend time with me, because she's concerned that i might be needing her attention.
- When she shares an intimate secret with me and i know that she trusts me enough to say it.
- The frustration that she confides in me when others in her environment are creating chaos that she cant control.
- The way that she doesnt hesitate to let someone know what she thinks about something that they've said or done.
- The joy that she shows when she's subjecting me to a new iniquity.
- Knowing that i mean enough to her that she's considering giving up the stabilities of her life to be with me.

[Silke]

All those little things you have posted, you have made my heart soft and my chest warm

MsUther - I know...I get those feelings from reading your post, too. And even thinking about and posting my own 'little things' did this for me. That's what I consider the magic in it. Glad you found this also. And I hope your Dom will soon realise the special place he has in your heart and accepts it.

Silke – I’m happy for you that you’ve found someone who makes you feel like that. Sounds wonderful.

Lol, Mina...I love his use of french, such a tease! And not a bad language either - even swearing sounds romantic in french! And yes, about finding this special person...it IS wonderful, I still get butterflies just thinking about how lucky I was that he found me.

Tojo - she sounds wonderful *sighs*. Good luck with making her yours.

I like this thread It's a pleasant thing to see so early in the morning.

shins - YES, you caught me...I've been a bit selfish with posting this thread. *grins* I get the same feeling. But I do like to share, so I'm glad you get some happy feelings out of it, too.

And...I'll add another one...just a quickie....
...his reaction when he found out about my last post. It was my happy thought when I went to bed last night and the first thing I remembered when I woke up.

Have a nice day y'all!

[Tojo]

Well she's only going to be mine for a week...but it's going to be a nice week.

The only one who will ever truly be mine is the lovely katie, I think.




Tojo

[angelfreak]

I just found this post so I thought I'd throw my two cents in.

Since, right now, things are just online between me and my potential Dom there aren't a whole lot of things I can do to really please him. But here's a few.

- Making sure I show how happy I am whenever we get a chance to chat

- Doing my best to submit even though my 'inner imp' wants to be rebellious at times

- Asking him how he's doing and really paying attention to his answer (showing him I really do care)

- Being patient with the pace we're moving at


Things that make me happy:

- When he calls me his pet

- Whenever he comes online just to check if I'm there

- When he tells me he's been thinking about me all day

- Knowing that, even though I'm being punished, he has my best in mind and he's punishing me to improve me as a submissive

[learningtopleez]

Silke, this thread was a beautiful idea! And so many beautiful little things that make us all so happy! It has been such a pleasure to read them all!

I thought I would throw in a couple that were from that now infamous last r/l relationship...yeah...with Max!

How he always opened the door for me, and if I forgot and opened it myself, I would get that stern Dom look, and quickly close it again! He always laughed when I did that!

How he always tells me how beautiful I am, even now, when we occasionally e-mail or chat on the phone.

How he always made sure I ate right, exercised, and drank water!

How he would hold my hand, or put his arm around me, while we were out walking around some where!

How he loved all of me, not just parts of me.

How he would run his fingers through my hair, eventually pulling it into a ponytail when I was giving him a bj, so that he could control my movements and hold me in place when he came! *melts*

[katie_21]

Oh gee golly Tojo

[Guest013109]

When wifey and I are in 'BDSM-mode', little things are always important...

When I Dom her, I love the cute smile she has while bound. Also, the cute mppphing sound she makes gagged and being stimulated. Her beautiful naked body. The begging. All the above.

When she Domme's me, I adore her cute voice trying to be mean. Love the interesting positions she bounds me in. Also, her sweet kitty kat in my face. Yum.

[her_Joe]

It's not that this is hard to do, it's just that the list is endless ... after all, that's what a day is, a whole bunch of little stuff in a row:

-when she stops and says "Thanks" for no apparent reason.
-when she bends over knowing I'll see.
-when she blushes because she knows what I'm thinking
-when she clings to me in the middle of the night and cries for joy
-when she gives up her independence the second I tell her
-when she drives herself to accept
-when she works hard on something for me because I've asked
-when she tries hard even though she's tired or frustrated or confused or feeling like a failure

But when she says I'm the reason she's succeeding, she's full of crap!

HJ

[submissivewife]

But when she says I'm the reason she's succeeding, she's full of crap!

HJ

hahahahahahahahahahaha your just being modest

[StillBehindBlueEyes]

So, for the subs - what is it that you do to please your Dom/mes? Anything counts! And what in return makes you a happy sub?

My very favorite thing is to make Master smile, to hear him chuckle.

I just love it when he calls me a term of endearment. Silly sub, little one, slut, it makes me feel as if his hand is caressing my head.

[Uncle_Ed]

I've just seen this thread for the first time.

It is a thing of beauty and I'm proud to be a small part of this community.

There are so many little things, aren't there? If I have to choose one:

The way in which my wife looks at me. Every day looks are good-the special "Come and take me" look, though. That stops my breath.

[Silke]

*sighs* always brings a smile to my face when I read a new post in this thread. Thank you for sharing, everyone.

[wingsofanangel]

I don't have a Dom.. persay right now. BUT... one of my biggest little things is one a Dominant is fond of me and refers to me as "Lil One" .. It just melts my heart...

thats all I have right now... -sighs happily- its just.. yeah.. that one gets me everytime!

Anya

[KermitsKeeper]

I'm not supposed to post without permission, but I couldn't wait to add to this... I love the way Master Evan calls me when he knows I am upset about something and then keeps me on the phone until I am laughing again... He's the best!

[mina]

I love the way Master Evan calls me when he knows I am upset about something and then keeps me on the phone until I am laughing again... He's the best!

Aww that's so sweet!

[Silke]

I'm not supposed to post without permission, but I couldn't wait to add to this... I love the way Master Evan calls me when he knows I am upset about something and then keeps me on the phone until I am laughing again... He's the best!

Must be the sweetest reason to break a rule *sighs*...hope you won't get into too much trouble about this, darlin'. Or if you do...well...that he'll make you laugh again afterwards.