The Anticlimax

[Isabella King]

Anyone suffer from this?

He has sort of cranked me up over the last week – wound me up and teased, tortured and used me at every opportunity whilst denying me even the merest hint of an orgasm.

Well, now he’s satisfied my need and I feel…empty? Maybe that’s not exactly the right word but it’s hard to explain. I look back at all my fevered posts and wonder how I had the nerve! But now I just feel…well…empty.

I miss my frantic frustration. I miss the way I looked at the world through cock shaped glasses and I miss that wonderful, breathless fluttering that I had almost constantly in my stomach - not to mention that persistent throbbing elsewhere.

It happens every time he puts me through this, but I really think I’m beginning to get more of a thrill out of the frustration than I do the release!! I think that might be what he wants me to feel. The subject of total abstinence seems to have been mentioned far too much of late. Is it really possible to train your mind and body to do without the release of an orgasm whilst constantly living on the edge of one? Does anyone have any (further down the line) knowledge of this? I’m not sure I want to end up being led somewhere that I can’t come back from.

Any thoughts?

[TomOfSweden]

Most people need to snuggle after sex. This is the reason.

[Isabella King]

Most people need to snuggle after sex. This is the reason.

There was no snuggle. This wasn't even sex - in the true sense of the word - just relief for me and it was carried out in a rather business like fashion.

Sex, for us, is becoming more about his pleasure and less about mine. He is very generous with his hugs and kisses and cuddles after we have indulged in any kind of sex that culminates in his climax but I have noticed, of late, that - even though I enjoy all of our play - my orgasms are increasingly being separated from…um, anything sexual, I suppose.

NB: I should point out that I am pretty turned on by the whole denial thing but I'm just a bit scared about the ultimate consequencies. I don't want to ask him if he's sure about what he's doing but I suppose I'd like someone to come along and say, I've been there - and it's hot!

[TomOfSweden]

I suggest you widen the scope of your definition of sex.

[crazy_grrluk]

sounds to me like you are suffering from some sub-drop. All of a sudden it isnt there any more and you feel like you say... empty and lost.

[Isabella King]

I suggest you widen the scope of your definition of sex.

Now, are you being facetious, Tom, or is that a truly serious suggestion?

[Warbaby1943]

Do you suppose it is the manner in which your orgasms are achieved that makes you feel empty? Correct me if I am wrong but didn't I read a comment by you that you hadn't had vaginal sex in ages? If I am correct I would think that maybe Tom's suggestion is not far off the mark. If I am incorrect then please forgive me.

[Isabella King]

Correct, Warbaby - and yes, you're right - standing in his office with a vibrator, is the usual manner of delivery...and now I'm squirming with embarrassment.

I was rather hoping not to be left stuck up here under this spotlight on my own. I was hoping someone else might have a similarly sadistic man, or that someone else might share my weird masochistic tendencies.

[TomOfSweden]

Now, are you being facetious, Tom, or is that a truly serious suggestion?

I'm serious.

[Warbaby1943]

Correct, Warbaby - and yes, you're right - standing in his office with a vibrator, is the usual manner of delivery...and now I'm squirming with embarrassment.

I was rather hoping not to be left stuck up here under this spotlight on my own. I was hoping someone else might have a similarly sadistic man, or that someone else might share my weird masochistic tendencies.

You have absolutely nothing to be embarrassed about. Until the time that someone else with experience in this comes forward I guess all we can offer you is our thoughts on the matter.

[TheMagistratus]

My sub [obsequium] loves denial. That means she loves to hate it I haven't denied her for more than a few days but that's as much as she can take and still live vanilla when she needs to live vanilla.

Not sure about your Master but I like hearing what my pet has to say about her likes and dislikes. Mostly it makes me a better Master but it also allows me to deny her better.

[icey]

ive never had to do the orgasm denial thing for extended lengths of time only while were playing, so im probably not qualified to answer.
but ive found that at those times when im denied it and i get all worked up once i am allowed to i explode! and would have thought that even after an extended period i would still react the same

Sex, for us, is becoming more about his pleasure and less about mine.

or maybe this is partly the problem?

[fetishdj]

Does sound like sub drop to me, possibly combined with some feeling of lack of affection afterwards and missing the sensation of vaginal sex. In terms of sensual feelings and also emotional facets of sex, vaginal sex and clitoral sex are different and if you don't get one you can miss it (so I have been told). I know this because at least one woman I have been with has never been satisfied with 'mere' clitoral orgasm. Once she has had that orgasm she then needs to be penetrated, if only for a short time, in order to complete the 'sexual experience'. She doesn't even need to orgasm from this. just feel something inside her.

Maybe you could ask your Master nicely if he wouldn't mind using a dildo on you when you are allowed to cum, or maybe just plugging your vagina with something? Its an extra level of humiliation/sensation as well as fulfilling this need of yours. You should also, more importantly, look to aftercare and make sure that you get hugs and so on when you get these 'special' sessions as well as after vanilla sex. A chance to talk about the experience with him openly and frankly is also a good thing to have.

And never worry about talking about such things on here. While no one may have had the exact experience you have had I can bet that all of us have had similar ones which are equally likely to make us blush. No one will judge you for something like this.

[Thrasher]

I don't know if it is relevant, but I had a sub who loved me and would do anything I said...to a fault? But I found just from experience...by accident? that she would stop rebelling if I gave her my cum. I mean if I came in her mouth or on her body or inside her, it seemed to slow down her constant jumping up and down and asking for more! mORE! MORE!
So what I would do is cum on her and make her rub it in for "punishment" or inside her for "reward." (she loved this, so it wasn't hard to figure out.)
If this is painfully out of left field I apologize.