just a few questions...1

[.x.Cole.x.]

ok well me start off by saying i have a lot a lot of questions but i seem to never get answers.. so imma try writing them on herre,... whitin time i hope i can ask most of them,...

1. why is it harder for me to use Sir when im with Him but while im in His arms and we're jus chillin in position 5 its harder for me to use Sir. when im texting Him or writing Him on here its so easy. But when im looking right at Him i dunno why it gets harder to do. i want Him to be happy. and im not making Him happy by not doing the one thing He asks of me. well one of the things He asks of me. i hate myself more and more everyday i know it upsets Him. its not that i dont do it. its i dont do it ALL the time. but i really do try.

2. does anyone know where i can get some info on knot tying. i seems to always make my way out of His ties and its frustrating Him so i wanna help Him out cuz i dont like Him being upset that i can get out of them. i think thats another reason He wont bind me too much.

ill write more questions later. maybe a few answers will help other related questions. so i wont feel so stupid.

.x.subbie.x.

[denuseri]

well sis, its allways hard adjusting at first to addressing your man appropriately, our society and the way we are raised to conduct ourselves is so informal these days

is it any wonder considering the majority of your life the only men we sir might have been our fathers and mabey a work related customer service experience, i allways had to call my owner Master which is a slightly harder honnorific title to get used to in my opinion due to its format etc, imajine the girls trying to get used to using Lord, (in addition to which some men dont want thier girls using such titles in mixed company so its again harder to make it a habital practice without negative and or positive reinforcement (lord knows i cried myself many timeswhen i screwed up with my conduct), but trust me eventually and it will be sonner than yu think, with exposure and famiularity you will be rolling the sirs of yur lips with alacrity and be quiet comfortable doing so, so much so yu may start slipping the sir in there in front of people and places yu normally wouldnt by acciedent

also it may be easier to keep your head when online as you are not in his presence directy? i know it is for me, i still get flustered sometimes myself in the oddest of ways

if he is a new dom rope bondage may be unfamiluar to him as well as many other things unless he was aboyscout extrodinare or in a military job or a cowboy knot tying just isnt somethimng most people learn about anymore, try just leaving the bonds be( unless he is having yu struggle or escape them on purpose) cuffs of many kinds can be fun too, it will be hard to approach him about the knots is what i am sure yu are thinking yu may be affraid to bring it up, bruise his ego etc, its just like us with some things too, talking and communication is key, i am sure he is self aware of any problems he is having with the knots especially is every time he turns around poof there yu are free, eaither keep getting out of them until he learns himself under his own power thru other means to tie better ones, or try getting him a book on knots and rope tieing, mabey suggest a web site on it that provides tutorials and pictures

a google or boolean serch may help, and some here may have some links to good web sites for it, as for a book, yur local barnes and noble or books a million or public library should sufice, yud be surprised

[.x.Cole.x.]

well sis, its allways hard adjusting at first to addressing your man appropriately, our society and the way we are raised to conduct ourselves is so informal these days

is it any wonder considering the majority of your life the only men we sir might have been our fathers and mabey a work related customer service experience, i allways had to call my owner Master which is a slightly harder honnorific title to get used to in my opinion due to its format etc, imajine the girls trying to get used to using Lord, (in addition to which some men dont want thier girls using such titles in mixed company so its again harder to make it a habital practice without negative and or positive reinforcement (lord knows i cried myself many timeswhen i screwed up with my conduct), but trust me eventually and it will be sonner than yu think, with exposure and famiularity you will be rolling the sirs of yur lips with alacrity and be quiet comfortable doing so, so much so yu may start slipping the sir in there in front of people and places yu normally wouldnt by acciedent

also it may be easier to keep your head when online as you are not in his presence directy? i know it is for me, i still get flustered sometimes myself in the oddest of ways

yeah.. if im not right in front of Him im fine. i do it without thinking about it a lot and i want to be at the point that i have to think about calling Him Hun in front of family and in public. i want that soooooooo damn bad ya know. i hope it makes it soon. but im really trying. sometimes i just feel like its more of a roleplay thing too ya know. and im not too terribly into roleplay. if im caught up in the moment then sometimes i dont have to worry about it cuz it just comes out but if im bea=ing asked a question or being spoken to i jus cant get myself to do it. but i know the punishments are going to get more serious if i take much longer and i dont want that either. so i gotta get my shit straight and fast.

[denuseri]

aww hugs sis, try relaxing yu dont have to be perfect all the time boo

[tired.of.vanilla{DJ}]

try to google or look up on Youtube "twoknottyboys" they have some great fun ties for ropework. you will be snug as a bug in a rug in no time.

[Flaming_Redhead]

I have never been in a D/s relationship where I was forced to use a title. In fact, I was told to use whatever is comfortable for me, which happens to be "Daddy." I only use "sir" when I'm in trouble or scening. I can call him by his name at any time, and this is with an Old School Master. I guess you could say he's been around the block a few times, and protocol just isn't a top priority for him anymore.

I would guess that it's harder to do it in person because it's not something you're used to saying on a regular basis to anyone, much less your significant other. Keep in mind that "sir" is a term of respect, and if he hasn't earned your respect, forcing lip service is nothing more than role play. If you do respect him, it shouldn't be that hard to show it.

As far as information about bondage, I'm of the opinion that it's not your job to provide him with the means to bind you. This is where I don't cut "dominants" any slack. If he wants to be a bondage top, then he needs to learn what the hell he's doing. The way I look at it is if he really wants to know how to tie a knot he can look it up himself. He has a responsibility to know what he's doing before he does it to you. If he's dominant, he should be taking the initiative, not you. In the meantime, you can either learn to be perfectly still so as not to frustrate him or keep wiggling until he decides he needs to figure out how to keep you still.

[denuseri]

thanks sis, i didnt want to say it brutal like but its true, if my owner couldnt tie me/ respect,use,dominate etc me, he would have figured out real quick or i would have found someone who could,

its a hard sub life sometimes weg

[.x.Cole.x.]

As far as information about bondage, I'm of the opinion that it's not your job to provide him with the means to bind you. This is where I don't cut "dominants" any slack. If he wants to be a bondage top, then he needs to learn what the hell he's doing. The way I look at it is if he really wants to know how to tie a knot he can look it up himself. He has a responsibility to know what he's doing before he does it to you. If he's dominant, he should be taking the initiative, not you. In the meantime, you can either learn to be perfectly still so as not to frustrate him or keep wiggling until he decides he needs to figure out how to keep you still.

ok im not saying it is up to me and im sure He has looked into it but i know He gets frustrated and im tryin to help Him out becasue being bound is my fetish and the more frustrated He gets the less He does it and i want Him to like it too.. and i cant be perfectly still. its hard as shit when something hurts or feels really good to not move ya know.

[Kuskovian]

Disipline to be still while he binds you is nessesary to some degree, especially if he is new to the many and varied uses of rope.

Of course he could use a simple postal hitch to hog tie and sit on you first, giving him time to place his ties more effectivly.

Knots are something to be planned and practiced many times privately before attempting them; regaurdless of weather they are used to climb a mountian or restrain a girl for her use.

Also, if your giving him way too much struggle, he could resort to zip-ties and or handcuffs to hold you in preparation for better binding with rope.

It also helps to use the right kind of rope to begin with, nylon simply won't do. He needs a pliable rope that still creates enough friction under tension to not slip.

I recomnd hemp or jute for maxinum friction.

When binding ones slave with traditional nawa shibari techniques one doesn't even use knots. The Japanese believe it dis-honors both the practicioner and his subject to do so.

Why doesn't he come here to the site himself?

[.x.Cole.x.]

Why doesn't he come here to the site himself?

He is on the site. and im sure He's been reading my posts and everyones replys.but yeah i guess i am part of the problem. i need to stay still whiule Hes tryin to bind me. thanks Hun. ill pass on that info about the rope too cuz i think it is nylon.. its really slick rope.

[Lion_in_Disguise]

I'm here, I'm just more inclined to read, rather than post. I'm actually rather familiar with ropes and knots..but mostly for rescue work and mooring. I'm not transitining(sp?) to tying her up for the purpose of restraint well is all. Mostly its securing her wrists with means other than a cross or round lashing. Eh. I just need time and practice is all.

And I'll look into using hemp or Jute. What we've been using so far, as far as rope goes, was listed as 'synthetic'.