Getting into BDSM

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Hi im quite new to all of this so please excuse the basic question. Whats the best way to get into bdsm should i explore it online to begin with or get out there, and if so where is there?

[cadela]

Read, read, read, have a sleep and then read some more. Buy "Screw the Roses, send me the Thorns" and SM101 (both on Amazon and other sites). Get chatting on this and other good forums and also check out your local scene (Cardiff, Swansea? or the Birmingham Bizarre Bazaar is good fun) for munches - casual meetings, normally in a pub so no latex or whips on show (!), of the perverts in your area. You'll find they are generally normal people. Don't get swept up in the romantic notion of meeting your perfect partner in week one (or week 87!) otherwise you might be disappointed. But do enjoy yourself, it's supposed to be fun!

[allalone46]

The best way is to do what you can. On line adn go to conventions or try to get into a munch if possable.

[Misschief]

Follow your instincts, little one.. you are safe behind the PC and no-one will judge you as your persuits here on the web are private (to an extent)..

If you need to ask then "how" to enjoy it, then 'it' is not for you..

I was never able to achieve orgasm (via sex w/ another person.. I've been masturbating since 8.. *evil grin*) until I confronted the darkest parts of Myself.. Embracing them and sharing with the right people set Me free..

I suggest reading some text-based erotica, a plethora of which is available on this site..

What turns you on..? What ideas brought you to this conclusion..?

[Ladymad]

I will just reiterate:

Read!!!

For me, when I was new to BDSM, real life was not an option at all (an 11 or 12 year old girl in a rural Australian outback town going to munches? AS IF!!). The internet is great, so much knowledge just laying around waiting to be needed!

Good luck on your journey