How is your happiness

[SidiSahid]

My happiness has been getting a Euro girl and tie her into my life. How about yours?

[Warbaby1943]

SidiSahid welcome to the forums. Happiness can be found here.

[poetic_justice]

Happiness is not something I am overly familiar with.

I am fine being content.

[submissivewife]

Still searching.....

[Aussiegirl1]

I have to say I am happy with having made some wonderful new friends on this site who have just added so much to my life.

Subwife, hang in there, I know you will find happiness again soon.

[Tojo]

Well my r/l is going pretty well, I have a lovely wife & some excellent friends.

My true happiness in the world of D/s has pretty much slipped away, & with it much of my interest in 'playing.' However I still have my lisa & am managing to keep going with the help of a few dear friends.

I'm also lucky to have found someone who understands my reluctance & is happy to keep things going along quietly for the present. As usual I seem to be able to find just what I need when I most need it.

Tojo

[chattel69]

I'll get back to you on this...I haven't seemed to have found it yet.

[submissivewife]

As usual I seem to be able to find just what I need when I most need it.

Tojo

Isn't this amazing....the ones you need the most, when you most need them seem to crawl out from the wood work. Yep...I know what you mean.

subwife

[Silke]

I personally think happiness can be found when you look at what you have and what is working at any present time, instead of being overly caught up in what is lost and what you don't seem to have yet. It's more of an attitude than anything. And every time I adopt this attitude I see just how much is actually wonderful in my life. Granted, it can always be better, but I'm happy.

Things that make me smile - my family and friends (online and offline...it's good to feel loved and love back)...my Master *smiles*...yes, I think it's the people in my life who make me happy.

To everyone who's still on the search for happiness...a big HUG and

[hawk_fann]

I think happiness starts with liking yourself (since your self is pretty hard to shake) and having friends and family that keep it interesting and help you to grow as a person. After you have those things in place, you figure out how to fill in the gaps. For me, being a member of this community is a way to fill in a gap in my life - given that my wife does not share my bdsm interests. If it were not for you people, I would not have anyone to visit with about these desires. The people here make me happy with their posts, stories, word games, etc. Thank you all for having me.

[Timberwolf]

Learning to be cool with who I was as a person took me a long time. I won't say I've wound my way all the way down the road of happiness just yet, but at least learning that hating myself was the most destructive thing imaginable was a huge step.

[Misato36]

Happiness can be found in small doses. I look for the small things that make me happy each day. If you find something small everyday which makes you happy then it is hard to be disappointed.

[StillBehindBlueEyes]

Isn't this amazing....the ones you need the most, when you most need them seem to crawl out from the wood work. Yep...I know what you mean.

This is so true. Master released me, I thought I'd sink in to a hole and I was pulled out and set back on my feet by people here. I tremble thinking what I would have done if I had not taken the time to visit the forum.
I remember seeing Aesop's post at the Academy, Does the forum smell; or something like that and just had to come peek.
I wouldn't say I'm happy yet but I don't feel devistated anymore. (Thanks both H's )

[Aussiegirl1]

I personally think happiness can be found when you look at what you have and what is working at any present time, instead of being overly caught up in what is lost and what you don't seem to have yet. It's more of an attitude than anything. And every time I adopt this attitude I see just how much is actually wonderful in my life. Granted, it can always be better, but I'm happy.

Silke, you are so right. As they say, you can't change the past and you don't know what the future will bring. It is the here and now we have to enjoy.

There is a saying we have been using at work and it is "choose your attitude" and it is amazing how it feels when you try to do that. You realise you do have some control over how you are feeling, though it is not always easy.

I also agree you have to like yourself and be yourself before you can be happy.

Love reading everyone's responses

Aussiegirl

[Aussiegirl1]

This is so true. Master released me, I thought I'd sink in to a hole and I was pulled out and set back on my feet by people here. I tremble thinking what I would have done if I had not taken the time to visit the forum.
I remember seeing Aesop's post at the Academy, Does the forum smell; or something like that and just had to come peek.
I wouldn't say I'm happy yet but I don't feel devistated anymore. (Thanks both H's )

Sbbe, it is so good to hear you are on the way to feeling better. It just goes to prove to me yet again what an amazing community this really is.

Hoping that you continue to feel better every day.

Aussiegirl

[StillBehindBlueEyes]

Hummmm, yes. Every single day I've felt a little happier. I love coming here and giggling.

[His_pita]

For me happiness has been found in the arms and under the whip of my Joe. He is my everything and the reason that life is happy. I used to have so much rage and depression. He is bringing that out of me and helping me to become whole for once in my life. What a joy it has been.

Happiness can also be found in a jacuzzi as I just learned this last week while we were on vacation.

[dzire2pleeze]

This is so true. Master released me, I thought I'd sink in to a hole and I was pulled out and set back on my feet by people here. I tremble thinking what I would have done if I had not taken the time to visit the forum.
I remember seeing Aesop's post at the Academy, Does the forum smell; or something like that and just had to come peek.
I wouldn't say I'm happy yet but I don't feel devistated anymore. (Thanks both H's )

I understand your devastation and I also understand first-hand the support and tremendous love of the people on this site. They were there for me, too.

[Curious George]

A few years back I was going through a bad time (not for the first time in my life either) and bought this book:
The Art of Happiness: A Handbook for Living - Dalai Lama & Howard C. Cutler.

Makes an awful lot of sense when things aren't going as well as you'd like, I'd recommend it to anyone who needs a shot of something good in their life. The one-line take home message from it is that we frequently go after things which will only bring temporary pleasure rather than real happiness, and we need to be able to tell these apart.

Me, well I'm on cloud nine these days, I'm not rich, my car is very ordinary and I'm currently between jobs, but I've got my perfect partner and she's as crazy about me as I am about her, and for the first time in a long while I really looking forward to the future

[StillBehindBlueEyes]

Smiles
Isn't it such a strange thing that so many of us find such happiness in a place that's core is the application of pain. Giggle.

[frankee]

Smiles
Isn't it such a strange thing that so many of us find such happiness in a place that's core is the application of pain. Giggle.

Good point..never really thought about it. Funny that, huh?

[Warbaby1943]

Smiles
Isn't it such a strange thing that so many of us find such happiness in a place that's core is the application of pain. Giggle.

I have thought about exactly that, given it a lot of thought actually, and can't come up with an explanation other than I'm weird, kinky, or whatever else one may want to call me. Why I don't know and why now is even more puzzling. It is something I ma just trying to accept and live with as best I can. I'm am glad for this forum because it affords the opportunity to read about others of like mind.

[frankee]

my happiness increased quite a bit today, my Mistress gave me an unexpected phone call this morning. *really big grin* i am going to have a damn good day today YAY for me!

[Widget]

my happiness increased quite a bit today, my Mistress gave me an unexpected phone call this morning. *really big grin* i am going to have a damn good day today YAY for me!

How nice. Its always nice when something like that happens

[frankee]

Thanks widget. i'm still grinning like an idiot

[The Good Girl]

Since meeting my very nearly hubby-to-be (three days and counting to legality!) I am (and some will say an 'ingenue') a firm believer in my personally developed no holds barred theory where I give myself completely to CG and he recognises this in all that I do and say - he is first and foremost in my mind and heart, hurting myself more if I hurt him either thoughtlessly or needlessly.

Of course, there's the second ideology that 'life is pain, get used to it' which upon discovering a mutual understanding with CG, we then decided to change to 'if life is pain, might as well enjoy it!'

Now, how happy am I with my extreme pain threshold!

GG xx

[Tojo]

I understand your devastation and I also understand first-hand the support and tremendous love of the people on this site. They were there for me, too.

Shouldn't that be *are* there d2p?


Tojo

[submissivewife]

Sissy's back from vaca.....gotta call her....that's my happiness this week...

For me happiness has been found in the arms and under the whip of my Joe. He is my everything and the reason that life is happy. I used to have so much rage and depression. He is bringing that out of me and helping me to become whole for once in my life. What a joy it has been.

Happiness can also be found in a jacuzzi as I just learned this last week while we were on vacation.

[dzire2pleeze]

Shouldn't that be *are* there d2p?


Tojo

I stand corrected.

[Aussiegirl1]

Smiles
Isn't it such a strange thing that so many of us find such happiness in a place that's core is the application of pain. Giggle.

I have found that the most amazing thing too, but I think it has a lot to do with the fact that people here just seem to think and care about others so much. I know I never expected to find such good friends as I have here.

Good Girl I hope all goes well for your big day.