Female ejaculate

[Curious George]

Open question to the forum Q: how many woman can actually achieve ejaculation orgasms?

I used to read about it in porn stories but thought it was just pornographic licence, until I met my fiancee! I love to have her in a 69, one finger up her anus and one hunting for the G-spot (I'm fairly sure I've got that off pat now) while I tongue her clit. I know it's on it's way when I feel an internal muscular swelling in her vagina, in the area which I believe is known as the paraurethral glands. Shortly afterwards she will experience one or several (I think five is the most so far) ejaculations/orgasms, which I will swallow. Sometimes it's just a spoonful or two, other times I have had two or three mouthfuls and had to swallow quickly for fear of drowning! I find this an intensely erotic experience, not least of all because it is not something which has ever occured before in my relationships. Afterwards my fiancee is very lightheaded and tends to virtually collapse on the bed, especially those times when she wants to pull away but I force her to stay in position and manage to squeeze one more orgasm out of her. Just one of the many reasons why I love her so much

[wingsofanangel]

I do.. I do!.

I used to think it was a curse.. I would avoid a full blown orgasm at all costs b/c they were/are soooo intense! I've learned to cope and also can usually decide when I want one or not.

For me ... I don't do it all the time just b/c it takes soooo much out of me to let my orgasm go that far.. I get completley exhausted... and don't want to be touched.. just want to sleep... and well sometimes.. i'd rather stay up for more fun.

hehe... glad someone else knows about this.... i felt like a freak for a long time before I discovered what this is.

Sera(anya)

[Widget]

I have had that happen for me as well, I can not always predict when it does but those are some of my best orgasms ever. All I want to do is to do it over and over and over, hehe, one of these days I will find someone that can keep up to me.

The first time it happened to me it really grossed my ex husband out because it left a huge and I do mean huge wet spot on the bed. I didn't even know I had done it and he was not trying to either. It just happened that we had hit on a magic combination of my body position to where he had his fingers. He made me feel pretty embarassed about it. Luckly for me I was with someone after that who thought it was the coolest thing ever.

So ladies if you have it happen for you enjoy it because it is such a awesome feeling and guys make sure if it is the first time to happen for her to tell her how cool you find it. Tell her that any way every single time she does it with you !

[Silke]

*lightbulb* is that what happens? Damn, you learn something new every day, lol. I've been wondering why I flood my bed or sofa from time to time. It's never happened to me while having sex with anybody other than myself - honestly, the sex I've had was rarely all that great, and orgasms were few *sighs*. But I've noticed my orgasms getting stronger, wilder and...erm *blushes*...wetter. It really shocked me and annoyed me a bit when I had to remember putting towels under me or wash my sheets/covers a LOT...but hey, if the feeling is that good. *big grin* I can live with the consequences.

It's not something I can control so far...any ideas how you do this? And I'm not interested in how you stop them, lol...more in how you get there more often.

[wingsofanangel]

-giggles- So cute! lol.. Its totally norm. for some women... I felt just like you though.. I wouldn't play without towels lol..

Bascially... I got to the point where I would do kegels.. to strength my muscles... and I would stop RIGHT before it would happen.. when I feel the rush go through my body and the shaking begin... I would stop.... calm down a bit.. and restart.. or stop.. depending how flushed I was...

Just concentrate on learning how it will "feel" .. the things your body goes through right before it happens... then you will learn when to squeeze to "shut it off" or to pull away... this is how I learned...if I just completley let my muscles be over taken.. I am squirting everywhere.

Hope that helps.

Sera (anya)

[Widget]

I have always done kegels ever since I was a teenager because I discovered by accident that it made sex better for me..hahah. I didn't even know that was what I was doing was an exercise or had a name. I have still never really been able to control it from happening. I can sit on the edge of an orgasm forever sometimes until I can not stand it any more but I can't predict if I will squirt or not. I have had it happen sometimes too after I have had my first orgasm and am going in for seconds, but not at the same time as the actual orgasm happens.

I just enjoy the hell out of it and don't worry about it at all any more. I remember reading a personal ad one time from a guy that wanted to find a woman to give oral sex too. He claimed to be an expert at it. Then he blew his cover by stating that all women please make sure they had gone to the washroom first as he had some one "pee" in his face and it was not his thing.

I laughed so hard when I read that. Buddy if she did that then you were doing very well indeed.

[wingsofanangel]

I must admit... there are times I do not do it.. and there are times I can't stop it... but a lot of times.. I try not to... like when I am sleeping over at someones house.. and sneak a good rub! mmmmm

Sera (anya)

[Silke]

Kegels, eh? Seems I'm doing something right... Thank you so much for sharing, Sera and Widget - you rock! *grins*

Just concentrate on learning how it will "feel" .. the things your body goes through right before it happens... then you will learn when to squeeze to "shut it off" or to pull away... this is how I learned...if I just completley let my muscles be over taken.. I am squirting everywhere.

Oh hell, I'm going to have fun with this. *grins* Practice makes perfect, so I'll better get to it.

I remember reading a personal ad one time from a guy that wanted to find a woman to give oral sex too. He claimed to be an expert at it. Then he blew his cover by stating that all women please make sure they had gone to the washroom first as he had some one "pee" in his face and it was not his thing.

LMAO, now that's funny!! And actually...the first time this happened I thought I must have accidentally peed as well and got really apprehensive about it...lol, not something you want to have happen when having sex with someone. I watched myself closely after that and I'll be damned if I can't tell the difference between peeing and cumming *giggles*, so I knew it wasn't that - but it never occured to me that there was a term for this. I just thought I was, well, wet.

[maddie]

I've heard about it. I think it's happened to me only once, though.

Naturally, wikipedia has an entry on it:

In 2002, Emmanuele Jannini of L'Aquila University in Italy showed one explanation for this phenomenon as well as for the frequent denials of its existence. Skene's gland openings are usually the size of pinholes, and vary in size from one woman to another, to the point where they appear to be missing entirely in some women. If Skene's glands are the cause of female ejaculation, this may explain the observed absence of this phenomenon in many women. Retrograde ejaculation, where the fluid travels up the urethra towards the bladder (observed in 75% of test subjects) could also account for the observed absence.

Ejaculation in women seems to be aided or caused by stimulation of the area of the vagina known as the Gräfenberg spot (often simply known as the G-spot). The content of the ejaculated fluid is either all urine, all glandular secretion, or a combination of both.

Studies of the fluid ejaculated through the urethra have shown a different chemical composition than urine although urine may also be present. Glucose, prostatic acid phosphatase, and prostate specific antigen appear in female ejaculate along with lower levels of urea and creatine than found in urine. In some cases, ejaculate was differentiated from urine by the absence of an asparagus smell (after eating asparagus) or a dye.

[Blue_Monday]

I think--although I could be wrong!--that it's wildly exaggerated in porn, as most things are. I know a lot of fluid can be produced, but I don't think anyone squirts halfway up the wall.

My experience is a lot like your fiancee's, George. If my BF works my g-spot with one or two fingers, my backside with one finger, and my clit with his tongue, he'll occasionally get a mouthful. It's so intense that I naturally try to squirm away, so he has to really hold on to me. Yum!

[Widget]

not *gasp* exagerration in porn, those bastards they will stop at nothing !!

I think that Blue_Monday and George have one of the magic tricks to making it happen, it works for me too. Its not the only way but a very good one. I have never had it happen when I am masturbating.

I don't think any one ever squirts up a wall either.. I would not want to have to wash the walls every time..heh

[arwcuw]

I've actually been thinking of this, and it's interesting because I have no idea if I do it or not. I know that I orgasm, and I know that there's lots of wet afterwords, but I have no idea if it's ejaculate or just my body self-lubricating- in other words, I don't know if it came out before, durring, or after.

The reason this is hard to test is my method of masturbation, which probably resulted from early experiments with bondage: I squeeze my thighs together. I've read that the woman who prefers this method, and can reliably orgasm by it, is rare. Anyway, during the entire process, the area is completely closed off- no access allowed. So I can't know if the "humidity levels" suddenly increase at any time.

If anyone can think of a way I can test this, let me know.

[Ozme52]

The first time a woman drenched my thighs... exquisite!!

[Curious George]

Erm... what is a kegel? That's a new one on me.

As for the "squirting up a wall" I've seen a couple of porn vids starring a girl called (something like) Cyntherea who can do just that, fascinating stuff but she really would drown you if you were underneath and unable to move.

[Warbaby1943]

Erm... what is a kegel? That's a new one on me.

Arnold Kegel is a world-renowned gynecologist famous for his namesakes Kegel Perineometer (used for measuring vaginal air pressure) and Kegel exercises (squeezes of the muscles of the pelvic floor).

[Widget]

Kegel, or pelvic floor muscle exercises are done to strengthen the muscles which support the urethra, bladder, uterus and rectum. They enhance enjoyment of sex and women also do them after having babies to help retone the muscle's there and avoid problems later in life that are associated with child birth.

As for squirting up a wall..again exaggeration in porn..never...

Porn is a caricature of everything that is associated with sex. A gross exaggeration. A fantasy. All women are not Barbie dolls with more silicone than my computer chips. All men are not 12 inches of viewing pleasure and able to fuck for hours without cumming. There is all kinds of little tricks they use to make it look like the man is cumming buckets or that the women is squirting up a wall. I think the more common experience is what the women who have commented here have had.

[Usurper]

I know I've never posted on the forums before, but reading this thread I just had to let you know what a great turn-on squirting is for me.

Unfortunately, I've yet to meet a girl who's able to do it. Do people reckon that it can be taught/learnt?

[Widget]

I believe I can be learnt, if you do a search online regarding female ejaculation you will find a great deal of information. You have to be able to locate and stimulate the g-spot in order to cause it to happen and also a great deal is going to depend on you and your partners communication skills.

For me the first time was a surprise as I had said earlier and while I can not control if it will happen, I do know how to increase the chances of it happening. I also believe it is something that is easier for women to do as they grow older due to the fact the the vaginal walls thin as we age and thus making it easier to locate the g-spot to begin with.

Have some fun and do some research. I will include this Link because it has a good diagram of how to find the g-spot if you didn't know how to. If nothing else you and your partner will have fun with that. The biggest thing is for you both to relax and have fun without any pressure to have it happen to begin with. Don't make it a mission. It will suck all the fun out of sex for you both.

Have fun,

[Curious George]

I agree, I think the two crucial elements must surely be: i) the woman being comfortable with the partner - there must be plenty of guys who would freak out thereby causing inhibition in the future, and ii) the guy (or partner to be more balanced, they could just as easily be female) needs to be sensible and sensitive enough to locate the correct area.

Like riding a bike though, once you get the knack it seems to follow very naturally. I make sure to tell my SO just how much I like it, how much it turns me on and how close to her I feel because we can do this. Personally, we find that gently massaging her bottom (using aromatic massage oils) as part of the foreplay and during the stimulation, adds an extra level of "oomph" to the proceedings.

[Usurper]

Fantastic comments guys - thank you! Many thanks for the site too widget, very good read...

[Misato36]

I have experienced such orgasms in the past. They are strong and wet and always leave me gasping for air. The first time is wonderful but after around the third time it can become painful for me. I haven't been introduced to kegels but thank you for the information.

[Timberwolf]

"Porn is a caricature of everything that is associated with sex. A gross exaggeration. A fantasy."

Off topic but: I think my generation (I'm almost 25) and younger have totally lost sight of this. The internet has opened a door where anyone who wants it has access to virtually infinite amounts of pornography. And a lot of people are getting very silly ideas.

On squirting: I've never seen it in person, but I have to say, I find it a bit of a gross out. Don't get me wrong if it feels incridible for the female I'm willing to get over it... but I can't say I'd be overly pleased if she squirted buckets all over my face. But again, if it feels great... I'll work on getting over it.

[Timberwolf]

To just expand on my grossed out but I'll get over it comment:

As a switch I've developed a mantra for myself that I should demand nothing of a sub that I myself wouldn't be willing to do if the situation was reversed. "Demand nothing more of others than you are willing to demand of yourself." I admit, I like a girl to swallow for me. This seems a more or less comparable opposite, and if the situation arose she would deserve the same standard that I'd asked to be applied to her.

[Silke]

On squirting: I've never seen it in person, but I have to say, I find it a bit of a gross out. Don't get me wrong if it feels incridible for the female I'm willing to get over it... but I can't say I'd be overly pleased if she squirted buckets all over my face. But again, if it feels great... I'll work on getting over it.

*grins* a bit like I used to feel about a guy cumming all over me ...and while I've yet to experience this I must admit the thought of it makes me incredibly hot now. *blushes* I guess tastes really do change...

And I like your mantra by the way.

[Widget]

To just expand on my grossed out but I'll get over it comment:

As a switch I've developed a mantra for myself that I should demand nothing of a sub that I myself wouldn't be willing to do if the situation was reversed. "Demand nothing more of others than you are willing to demand of yourself." I admit, I like a girl to swallow for me. This seems a more or less comparable opposite, and if the situation arose she would deserve the same standard that I'd asked to be applied to her.

I have always felt that was more than fair. Besides how rude is that if you gross out over your lovers cum.

[Timberwolf]

"Besides how rude is that if you gross out over your lovers cum."

Yeah... that's a very good point.

Geez, now I feel bad lol.

[Widget]

"Besides how rude is that if you gross out over your lovers cum."

Yeah... that's a very good point.

Geez, now I feel bad lol.

HAHA sorry I didn't mean you, I just meant that is how I felt about it.

[YourThrone]

Seriously, if you're grossed out over your lovers cum, There's a problem somewhere. My girlfriend used to literally squirt buckets all over my face. One time it was so intense thought I was going to drown, also called 911. lol

But then again, I'm a believer in giving as well as recieving.

[Timberwolf]

"Seriously, if you're grossed out over your lovers cum, There's a problem somewhere."

That covers a lot of people, you know.

How many women would say to a guy "don't unload on my face" (for lack of a more polite way to put it)? Never really occured to me to think of that as a problem.

"But then again, I'm a believer in giving as well as recieving."

So am I, it doesn't mean I want to half drown to death over a bit of the lovely tongue flicking.

[MsUther]

Its a time and place for all things, its not always i want cum in my face, and there is a big difference between swallowing and not. But most of the time i love the juices on me, wherever it would please.

I didnt know i was squirting, and it made me a little stressed when i did. I have never acheived that on my own, only with my partner. And i always thought somehow i had managed to pee... and that annoys me a little.. How did i miss out on that info? I dont know why i didnt understand what it was.
And i really liked it. A lot