Hello my fellow Doms,
I come to you with a common problem, I need guidance. I am a 23/m/Dom and I don't want to be one of those posers who thinks training a sub is to have him/her do whatever random sex act their unimaginative walnut brains come up with and if they disobey they get whipped. That is a child playing with napalm, its dangerous and stupid. I want to take this culture seriously. My request is this, help me to acquire the knowledge and tools needed so I may deserve the trust of an experienced sub. I know that it is about my needs first but how to read a sub and her needs, when she deserves punishment and reward. How to punish a sub if you are not a sadist (I am not one). How to reward a sub and not seem weak. Finally I wish to learn the psychological undercurrents of the D/s relationship. If i could also chat with an experienced Dom to pick his brain that would help a great deal. Thank you for your time.
KingSean