wondering where I can find male "sex workers?"

[Lady Hecate]

I really hope this post doesn't make me look like a "troll", and I hope it's not against the rules of this site to ask questions of this nature. And I hope I don't get myself or anyone else in trouble for asking this and I hope this post doesn't get closed.

But, recently (okay not just recently) I've been having all of these annoying relationship problems.
I really would just like to find a guy who is non-judgmental so maybe I can just get laid without being ripped into.
I'm trying to meet guys on eharmony, but the last guy I met on there..I spoke to him on the phone, and I ended up confessing to him that I always have problems holding down a job, and I don't have a lot of female friends, etc.
He was extraordinarily rude and told me there is something wrong with me, and he doesn't want anything to do with me if I don't have female friends because he doesn't want to go to the mall with me, etc.
Seriously, I haven't had sex in over a year. I just want a guy to make me feel desirable, and to not care about my problems.

So..I'm actually beginning to seriously consider this option.. (it's not the first time I've thought about it actually.)
Can anybody tell me if I can find some good male sex workers who are STD free (obviously), handsome with an athletic build preferably and who will have sex with women? I obviously know that a lot of male sex workers are gay. (Or all of them are?? I'm honestly not sure.)

I'm not trying to be a smartass, and I don't want anyone to get in trouble like I said.
But can anyone possibly help me with this?
I would greatly appreciate some help.
Thank you very much.

[brwneydgirl]

You want a guy who will make you feel desireable and not care about your problems but will want to bang you, right? I cannot guarantee that he'll be STD free---so I suggest having him wear a condom---and you don't care about the BDSM or D/s or any type of kink, right?

Go to any bar/pub on the weekend and wear a low-cut top. Maybe a short skirt and some heels. And I'm not trying to be a smartass either...I'm being serious...you want meaningless, hot sex....not a relationship, right?

Should be fairly easy to find....

[Lady Hecate]

You want a guy who will make you feel desireable and not care about your problems but will want to bang you, right? I cannot guarantee that he'll be STD free---so I suggest having him wear a condom---and you don't care about the BDSM or D/s or any type of kink, right?

Go to any bar/pub on the weekend and wear a low-cut top. Maybe a short skirt and some heels. And I'm not trying to be a smartass either...I'm being serious...you want meaningless, hot sex....not a relationship, right?

Should be fairly easy to find....

Wow really?? Thanks, I totally never thought of that!
Way to stereotype every man in the world, and assume I have no interest in S&M.
Have you seriously NEVER been to a bar and have no one hit on you?
Seriously, I think your idea mostly only works on girls who are younger than 30, and that's pretty much ruling me out at this point. I know I'm not 100 percent right, but still..
that idea seriously does not rule out the fact that a lot of guys are seriously effing rude and judgmental! Did you not read that part? They're still going to be rude and judgmental!
Jeez. I actually don't even know why I'm answering this post!

[Ozme52]

She meant... for this one-time encounter, you're not looking for S&M per se, so yeah, a bar might work.

She wasn't sterotyping every man in the world, at least no more than you were stereotyping male prostitutes as "all gay".

So take the advice with the good intent it was given.

Also... if you aren't particularly choosey, consider a sci-fi convention. They're full of needy young men, many are quite nice looking, most are intelligent, just socially awkward. Plus it has the added advantage of ongoing partying in the evenings... and there is often an active group of kinksters also attending.

[skittish doe]

OK, I have a thought: If you ask for advice, try not to bite when you get it. You are accusing another of stereotyping, yet you say "...the fact that a lot of guys are seriously effing rude and judgmental" in a pretty rude way. I am not trying to attack you. I am just trying to point out that you asked for help and someone tried to give you some. You replied to her in a way that discourages anyone else from attempting to help you. Please think about this.

Men are as varied in personality as women are. (I happen to like men quite a lot) You cannot group men all in a lot, and say that one particular thing applies to all of them. Just as you cannot say a particular thing applies to all of any group of people. People are all different. You have value that is yours alone. I do hope you will find all that you are searching for. And I hope you will not bite me for my honest reply to you, as I am rather sensitive to bites.

[Lady Hecate]

OK, I have a thought: If you ask for advice, try not to bite when you get it. You are accusing another of stereotyping, yet you say "...the fact that a lot of guys are seriously effing rude and judgmental" in a pretty rude way. I am not trying to attack you. I am just trying to point out that you asked for help and someone tried to give you some. You replied to her in a way that discourages anyone else from attempting to help you. Please think about this.

Men are as varied in personality as women are. (I happen to like men quite a lot) You cannot group men all in a lot, and say that one particular thing applies to all of them. Just as you cannot say a particular thing applies to all of any group of people. People are all different. You have value that is yours alone. I do hope you will find all that you are searching for. And I hope you will not bite me for my honest reply to you, as I am rather sensitive to bites.

She wasn't trying to help.
She was telling me that I'm stupid.
But whatever. It doesn't really matter.

[denuseri]

If you just have to have an escort...well idk what to tell you other than to type the name of your city into google or somthing followed by the words "male escort" and see what you can get. I am not personally familiar with such things I would guess the escorts can be just as rude and judgmental only they wont express it nessesarally if you pay them enough. Not to mention unless you live in Nevada or a country were paying for sex is legal its against the law. Though I guess if you did it would be a heck of a lot easier and well I don't suppose you would be asking here then.

Oz isnt kidding about the sci fi conventions in so far as having lots of available men and little competition for their attentions...only dont expect them all to drool over you just becuase your a woman, they can be (believe it or not) just as picky as any other man in a bar or other such meat market situation when it comes to such things I suppose.

But I am in the same camp as browneyed girl when it comes to picking up men..or getting them to pick you up...dress to impress...dont look absolutely desperate, yet be approachable and eventually your prince will come...only dont expect a prince nessesarally. Additonally I dont believe age is an issue when it comes to the bars etc, I ve seen all tyopes ages and sizes getting the freak on in them and going home with people they dont know.

In any event like Oz and browneyedgilr and skittishdoe: I hope you find what your looking for out there somewhere and cultivate enough piece of mind to realize that your true beauty is inside and that the attitude you project has a lot to do with the attitude you will recieve from others in most social situations.

[13'sbadkitty]

You want a guy who will make you feel desireable and not care about your problems but will want to bang you, right? I cannot guarantee that he'll be STD free---so I suggest having him wear a condom---and you don't care about the BDSM or D/s or any type of kink, right?

Go to any bar/pub on the weekend and wear a low-cut top. Maybe a short skirt and some heels. And I'm not trying to be a smartass either...I'm being serious...you want meaningless, hot sex....not a relationship, right?

Should be fairly easy to find....

actually theres also home depot

[brwneydgirl]

Wow really?? Thanks, I totally never thought of that!
Way to stereotype every man in the world, and assume I have no interest in S&M.
Have you seriously NEVER been to a bar and have no one hit on you?
Seriously, I think your idea mostly only works on girls who are younger than 30, and that's pretty much ruling me out at this point. I know I'm not 100 percent right, but still..
that idea seriously does not rule out the fact that a lot of guys are seriously effing rude and judgmental! Did you not read that part? They're still going to be rude and judgmental!
Jeez. I actually don't even know why I'm answering this post!

A good attitude and a smiling face go a long way. Just sayin'.

[denuseri]

The college campus works too, heck some of my students even hit on me.

[leah06]

I think I understand this question. Google your city and male escorts. Some will have a homepage or other social networking method of selling themselves. The ones that do women will be very clear about it. It's a small market. Don't be surprised if he's actually gay, any more than a male john should be surprised that his female escort is into women. Treat it like a blind date - meet in public, let someone know where you are (details are unnecessary but a safe call is a good idea), do some minimal emailing or online chat first. Don't be too exercised about the whole legality thing. With escorts, you're paying for their company. If they choose to fuck you, that's free. Such is the theory, anyway.

My guess is that you will research this and then abandon it. I agree with Oz that sci fi conventions and kink events are probably a good way to find some undersocialized men who'd love free sex. Another option is Craigslist. I'd stay away from the casual encounters section, but check out the romance section, or dating or whatever it's called, and read the men's postings. There are plenty of men looking for strings-free sex who probably don't really care whether you're underemployed.

Good luck.

[fetishdj]

There usually is not much of a market for male sex workers who deal with women, which is why you are having problems. Men (of either orientation) are more likely to pay for meaningless sex than the average woman. If there were a market for male prostitutes who deal with women, I'd have been far richer than I am now...

If you have enough to pay for my ticket to Ontario plus a fee, I'd come over and help

Male escorts aren't supposed to have sex with clients, though everyone knows that they do if asked. What you are doing is hiring a man to look good on your arm for an evening to an engagement. I think any sexual contact is negotiated off the record with the escort and is a seperate payment. I also suspect that some vary their prices depending on how nice/horrible or even beautiful/ugly the woman is.

As for age and attitude... well, an older woman can make up for a lot by being confident and seeming happy. If you are healthy and reasonably good looking, you can pull with ease regardless of age. When I was in my 20s I had a number of one night stands with women who were heading for or over thier 30s and I did not even know they were in their 30s.

Just remember, in terms of sexual power, women have all of it. Men want it, you have it. if you look like you don't want to give it away you'll soon be offered as many choices as you can cope with.

As for men who are rude to you, sod 'em (I would have said fuck 'em but that gives the wrong impression in context ). They aren't worth having, even for a one night stand. Let them die alone and unloved like the worthless pieces of human wreckage that they are.

[Matin]

Couple things. Dicks for hire can be had without issue, but please be safe. Canada has craigslist, yes, or something of that nature?

You might post in casual encounters for an actual non-pro, but if it's a pro that you want, try this. Usually in gigs you will find ads for agencies hiring escorts, be they male or female. Call the number, even if they say they're only hiring women. bet they know where to get a man. Another tack is to ask a hooker.

Please be cautious when meeting people from the interwebs. It's been said to death, but going out to dinner with a guy first, then having SOMEONE know where you're headed after, it's all critical. When I would drop my friend off at 'appointments' I would snap a photo of the john(or jane)'s license plate. Precautions.

Final thought; Prince charming can't find you if you've cast him out with the thugs and idiots already.

Blessed be.
-matin

[artifex]

If you weren't so far away I'd offer to help for free...! I would guess that the quest for "just sex" would be easier for a woman than a man, but based on this thread maybe it isn't.

The bar idea seems like the best bet to me...and don't be afraid to hit on a guy or two. I'm very shy in social situations and am relieved when someone else starts the conversation!

[leo9]

Also... if you aren't particularly choosey, consider a sci-fi convention. They're full of needy young men, many are quite nice looking, most are intelligent, just socially awkward. Plus it has the added advantage of ongoing partying in the evenings... and there is often an active group of kinksters also attending.

Always, in my experience. The massive overlap between BDSM and fandom is a constant annoyance to vanilla fen, but in the UK they have accepted, with bad grace, that things like rope workshops and singletail demos are going to be on the program at most SF cons. Show up at one such dressed appropriately (I mean, clearly Domme or sub, as the case may be) and you should be sorted.

[thir]

Also... if you aren't particularly choosey, consider a sci-fi convention. They're full of needy young men, many are quite nice looking, most are intelligent, just socially awkward. Plus it has the added advantage of ongoing partying in the evenings... and there is often an active group of kinksters also attending.

What a very - interesting - generalization..

[Ozme52]

[troublemkr{jonjon}]

Ever try whatchamacallit?...Craiglist? Just in Case Home Depot doesn't work

[Lisais mine]

do women actually have trouble with casual sex? i can throw a rock and hit ten guys who will fuck anything

[Matin]

Simmer down now! No need to go throwin rocks.

I be fragile, and prone to bruising. ^_^

[brwneydgirl]

do women actually have trouble with casual sex? i can throw a rock and hit ten guys who will fuck anything

My point exactly. Thank you.

[Carpe Coma]

do women actually have trouble with casual sex? i can throw a rock and hit ten guys who will fuck anything

The problem is; are those guys the kind of people most women would want to fuck? In my experience the guys who will do any woman, do so because they have a hard getting any woman. It's the whole 'beggars can't be choosers'. Plus, there is something generally unappealing about someone with no standards. Just because it is 'casual' doesn't mean you are interested in bottom fishing.

[Ozme52]

The problem is; are those guys the kind of people most women would want to fuck? In my experience the guys who will do any woman, do so because they have a hard getting any woman. It's the whole 'beggars can't be choosers'. Plus, there is something generally unappealing about someone with no standards. Just because it is 'casual' doesn't mean you are interested in bottom fishing.

Well... let's not forget the original post...

I really would just like to find a guy who is non-judgmental so maybe I can just get laid without being ripped into.

Sounds like that'd do it.