Wired in reverse?

[thir]

i'm new to the board but if i may say so, would half of U(u)s really enjoy BDSM quite so much if it wasn't at least a little taboo? Alot of the thrill would be gone.

Hi and welcome to the board :-)
Well, as for me, I would really like it to me just as acceptable as other non-harmful human behaviour! It makes for far too many problems this way, not least if you have kids.
I can only say that the times I have been on events/camps with like minded people have been like coming home, and many depped something awful when they had to get back!

Sure, it's frustrating that other people don't understand or accept what W(w)e do, but in the end i know i personally wouldn't have it any other way. i get crap because i "set the feminist movement back 50 years every time i pick up His dry clean," but i just smile and laugh to myself that they don't know how those clothes got dirty in the first place ;-)

Fortunately there are a lot of bdsm feminists about ;-))

[leo9]

i'm new to the board but if i may say so, would half of U(u)s really enjoy BDSM quite so much if it wasn't at least a little taboo? Alot of the thrill would be gone.

For you, maybe; I know there are people who don't feel anything's sexy unless it's dirty and hidden. I had an on line friend who used the sigline "If sex isn't sick and disgusting, you're not doing it right."

Not for me. I'd rather live in cultures (like the Danes) who treat sex as just another part of life, and I'd be even happier if they were as cool about BDSM.

[13'sbadkitty]

yesterday when i was reading this exact thread a close friend from my life came by unannounced, i instantly clicked this off because i didn't want to hear it. the truth is also, i would love to live in a world where i could not have to avoid having stripes when its near doctors visits, where i wouldn't have to run to the bedroom to make sure everything is put away right when people come over who may want to see the house. i may not want to walk around calling Him "Master" all the time, but it would be nice if that was what W/we wanted it wouldn't raise eyebrows. i do have kids in school and i need to fit in and i need not to bail Him out because in my state much of what W/we do isn't even legal.

[Jennifer Williams]

I don't care what other people want to think. Honestly. I just wish that if they don't agree with the way we're doing it that they could keep such thoughts inside their head. I don't go around telling other people that they're "doing it wrong," and I wish I could get the same courtesy.

[pixie_piper]

Oh i do understand, believe me. Master won't even get an account on here for fear of people at work finding out. i'd like to be accepted, but i also realize that sometimes it being taboo makes it more fun. i dunno, maybe i'm just trying to find the sunny side to the situation.

[fetishdj]

I think the thrill of secrecy is part of the appeal but agree that there is a fine line between a need for secrecy and outright condenmation if discovered.