Too soft?

[xcatinthyshadowx]

So in a nut shell i believe my mistress in to in love with me? One week she'll be spanking, whipping and training me and the next shes a marshmallow! My all time best time with her was when she tied me up, cut my back and slapped with with a paddle. Holy crap after that i listened after that. She's still trying to grasp the whole Mistress concept because im her first. SO! anyone have idea how to help?!?!?!?

[Master Frost]

First you have to ask yourself, do you want a vanilla relationship with her? If yes tell her, if no still tell her. It's not fair to either of you if you both want something different.

[denuseri]

Have the two of you sat down and talked face to face?

[thir]

So in a nut shell i believe my mistress in to in love with me? One week she'll be spanking, whipping and training me and the next shes a marshmallow! My all time best time with her was when she tied me up, cut my back and slapped with with a paddle. Holy crap after that i listened after that. She's still trying to grasp the whole Mistress concept because im her first. SO! anyone have idea how to help?!?!?!?

I am not sure what the problem is?
That she may be in love with you?
That she isn't going full force all the time?

Are you living together? Or meeting often?

The thing is, no one goes about it top gun all the time. I guess it is a matter of what kind of relationship you have. Is she in charge? If so, I'd say it is up to her when she feels like doing stuff. If that is a problem, you two should talk and define the basis of the relationship so you are both on the same page.

[ropekitty]

I think sometimes people might forget the fact that... Dom/Tops/Masters/ect are humans too. . . they have their different moods and wants/needs depending on the day or time of the month. we're not all able to be on and be the same 100% of the time. That is one thing I think we should keep in mind.

Next as other said, talk to her. . . let her know you're needs and wants, and LISTEN to her and her needs and wants. From what I hear you want X,Y,and Z a lot of the time. . .so that might get old or she might end up feeling as if she's just a service top there to provide you your needs and not get her own met at the same time.

Just random thoughts on the topic that can go rather deep and should be talked about between partners.