I am not even sure where to begin here, but my heart goes out to you! i have been in places in my life where my mother has chosen men over me and it is not an easy place to be. I have never been in your situation before, so i will not pretend to understand, however, as a social worker, i have seen similar situations. As a wife with an ex husband that cheated, i blamed myself and the other woman instead of seeing my ex for what he was and it was only after a long time in therapy that i fully understood. As a mother now, my first priority is my son, as it should be, however i know this isn't always the case.

All i can offer is a friendly ear if you need to talk and my support in this very difficult transition. It is true what they say, what doesn't kill you will make you stronger. *hugs* Please feel free to pm me if you need someone to speak with.

sincerely,

bluefarie, very happily owned and engaged to Master Archeon