i went thru that a few years ago..with someone who really wasnt a Domme and did not approve of Lifestyle..she was, however, very violent and turned certain fetishes and acts into violence..i finally had her arrested and got an order of protection.. eventually i left the area..
i have an amazing Domme now..She is long distance at the moment and i miss sitting at Her feet and feeling Her fingers in my hair..She would never hurt me and i know that..after a time..it still creeps into my mind too...