It sounds like you are eager to find a real Dom or Domme, but what lady kissa said is correct. Go slow. Be selective and honest. Before you allow anyone to put you in bondage, make sure you trust He or She. Have a frank discussion about hard limits. If you want to be a submissive, be one. That means giving up control of a sexual scene. Once your passed the trust part, don't try being a top from a bottom position. Don't order a Master or a Mistress to do anything. He or She will order you.