My Lovely Carol,

You want to be submissive during sex. Only during sex? And not beside sex?

You have had a couple of bad experiences. There was your divorce and your current lover is a little conservative regarding sex. You were not lucky. You haven't found a good man in your life.

My suggestion. But let me tell you. I'm a lesbian submissive girl. So no men for me. My suggestion. Go the lesbian way and submit to a Mistress. Let her control your life.

How to find a Mistress? You could visit a lesbian bar. Look around and see the girls and women that are there. If one comes to you, talk to her and see how she is. Too wild? Forget it.

A Mistress will make love with you. She is using a strap on. And a strap on never gets soft. She will also spank you. But that is what I know. Spanking has made a better girl out of me.

Good luck.

Kate