Psynymph,

You do have a perdiciment on your hands, and I wish that you could *snap your fingers* and find a quick resolution. Like others have posted, I suggest talking with your husband again. Hopefully you can both give a little to make things work, and know that the concept of the compromise may take time to become reality for both of you.

I'll share a little of my past experience in an attempt to shed light on where your husband might be coming from. Its kinda hard to do, since insight into him is through your eyes, so take this for what its worth... I had strong feelings for the first person that suggested the lifestyle with me. Those typical nuture, love, protect her feelings, and even when she wanted discipline/punishment, needed it, i couldnt bring myself to do it. I was raised to never disrespect a woman, especially never 'hurt' her physically, and I had a very real block against it. That relationship ended for several reasons, but this issue was among the top of the list. Today, if i had exposure to her again, I wouldnt have those limitations... I'd spank and whip the hell out of her (if she wanted it) , but it took me several years to change my way of thinking. At the time when we talked about it, I told her that i could never bring myself to do it, and she moved on. So i guess my suggestion is talk to him, give it some time, give him some time. He may come around to your way of thinking eventually...after he comes to terms with the idea that he's not hurting you, he's giving you something you want. Just be prepared that he may not be able to accept that idea. Good luck, I hope you find the balance that you need