Originally posted by His_sweet_song
is it wrong to live the lifestyle on a semi part time basis:
To be honest, I was somewhat shocked by this question. It's only "wrong" if it's not working. The BDSM police will not be out to chastise you if your relationship doesn't conform to approved BDSM guidelines (although maybe things would be more exciting if they did--should we organize a squad?).

I hope the previous sentence doesn't come off as too critical. It's not meant to be. However, the tone of your question seems to indicate that you're concerned that your relationship may not measure up as "real" BDSM. This, of course, should not be a concern, since there's no such thing. It's your relationship.

In general, MrJerseyGuy answered your main question most eloquently and I agree with him.

I would also like to address the difference of opinion between MrJerseyGuy and Finding Fantasy. It seems to me that the majority of submissive women who post to this forum are full time submissives and for them there's a lot more to being submissive than just the sex. However, there are women who have submissive feelings only in regard to sex. These women do not wish to be dominated in aspects of their lives other than sex, are often embarrassed by their submissive feelings (and hence don't post much to this forum), and, I think, represent a majority of women with submissive feelings. They aren't "lifestylers", they just want to be tied up and spanked once in a while. Herein lies the difference between the opinions expressed by FF and MrJerseyGuy. There is no right or wrong to it. Different people just want different things, and finding a good match is always going to involve some level of compromise.