Well here's a view from the other side of the fence- I just received a lovely thank you from a friend who was the second person I've helped give up smoking this year.

I just asked her to give up, & also asked her to let me know if she started again.

The same worked for me with coffee- she said she's suffered enough herself & asked me to give that up.

I personally wouldn't use punishment- but then I don't believe in it anyway on the whole. In my experience the more you punish the less effective the punishment will be. When you really care for someone, if they say those dreaded words 'I'm disappointed in you' - that can hurt more than anything.


Tojo