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[Tojo]

Thanks Oz, that's nice.

Tojo

[wingsofanangel]

katie, sorry I am late on this.. if you are reading.. you are missed. I know that its not always easy to deal with this lifestyle.. and I cannot imagine what you are going through or why you are leaving.... but listen to your heart...

I too struggle with my being here... I never thought I would find myself at a place like this... I don't know how long I will be here ... or when my time will be up... but I know that I have great friends here and have learned a lot.

With any situation in life it can be used to learn and grow... i hope you take something away from your time here and use it to better learn yourself and what you want from life.

Never look back... never regret... always forgive... remember forget... words to live by...

Tojo... my heart is with you. Seperating from a Dom or sub is never easy. May time and friends ease your pain.

Blessed be,

Sera

[Warbaby1943]

katie, sorry I am late on this.. if you are reading.. you are missed. I know that its not always easy to deal with this lifestyle.. and I cannot imagine what you are going through or why you are leaving.... but listen to your heart...

I too struggle with my being here... I never thought I would find myself at a place like this... I don't know how long I will be here ... or when my time will be up... but I know that I have great friends here and have learned a lot.

With any situation in life it can be used to learn and grow... i hope you take something away from your time here and use it to better learn yourself and what you want from life.

Never look back... never regret... always forgive... remember forget... words to live by...

Tojo... my heart is with you. Seperating from a Dom or sub is never easy. May time and friends ease your pain.

Blessed be,

Sera

Sera,

You are wise beyond your years. I for one hope you never leave. Your youthful wisdom at times and your ageless advise at others would be sorely missed. Hoping to advert another tragic loss, I beg you to stay.

[Warbaby1943]

Thanks for the overwhelming support for both of us. It means a lot to me at least. Thanks especially for the multitude of PMs & emails.

Yes if katie stays away from me for good as she's threatened to, my life will never be the same again. I've never met anyone like her- she's a pain the ass sometimes, but has made me feel alive like I never thought possible.

I'm not going anywhere- I'm not one to give up easily, I'll just be a bit quiet for a while.

I have my dear friend Jane to talk to- her bf left for no apparent reason as well, so we have found solace in each other as usual.

As for you katie, if you ever read this- I'll be here waiting for you.
I could never forget you.

Tojo

Tojo,

I really feel for you but you know that already. You know you have a great number of friends. I've always said what good are friends if you can't use them. Do that now and heal quickly. You'll be missed in your absence.

[wingsofanangel]

Sera,

You are wise beyond your years. I for one hope you never leave. Your youthful wisdom at times and your ageless advise at others would be sorely missed. Hoping to advert another tragic loss, I beg you to stay.

Thank you Warbaby...I really do appreciate it. Not everyone is willing to accept advice or what have you from someone my age.. by I try hard to look at life and the world with open eyes and a sponge like mind. Its nice to be able to put it to use.. or atleast try to. I do not plan on leaving anytime soon, its just a struggle to deal with my feelings sometimes... as I was not raised to hang around a place like this... I hope that does not come across as offensive... its just hard to justify something when life was once so black and white for me.. and now there is so much grey matter.

Thanks again.

And lots of Hugs to Tojo and Katie.

Sera

[Tojo]

Yes an excellent point sera- the struggle to stay here. I may well have walked away myself this week if not for the support of my friends.
Thanks for the hugs, that means a lot.

The whole world tells us what we feel & what we do is wrong. It takes a lot to keep on track sometimes. Even the intensity of feeling seems wrong somehow.

I'd never desert lisa- I'm talking to her now, but getting back into a 'full blown' D/s relationship again is not going to be easy.

Let's hope katie does come back- the last 4 days have been dark & cold.


Tojo

[frankee]

You're never alone Tojo *big hug*

[Silke]

Let's hope katie does come back- the last 4 days have been dark & cold.

*Lights an ocean of candles for Tojo* Come into de-light, my friend.

[Aussiegirl1]

Tojo

Big, warm, cosy hugs to you.

I know I can't just take away your pain, but I hope I can help to ease it in time.

[Warbaby1943]

Thank you Warbaby...I really do appreciate it. Not everyone is willing to accept advice or what have you from someone my age.. by I try hard to look at life and the world with open eyes and a sponge like mind. Its nice to be able to put it to use.. or atleast try to. I do not plan on leaving anytime soon, its just a struggle to deal with my feelings sometimes... as I was not raised to hang around a place like this... I hope that does not come across as offensive... its just hard to justify something when life was once so black and white for me.. and now there is so much grey matter.

Thanks again.

And lots of Hugs to Tojo and Katie.

Sera

Sera, we all struggle with our feelings at times. Realizing those feeling are real makes us what we are. A place like this is the last place I ever thought I'd find friendships but I was surely wrong. I love this place and one lady in particular. Do try to stay with us for a long time to come.

I'd venture to say that none of us or at least a very small percentage of us ever thought we'd end up here. We did and we found each other and all the support that is given is just amazing. Hang around lovely, one you'd missed in your absence.

[cookiecat]

its just a struggle to deal with my feelings sometimes... as I was not raised to hang around a place like this... I hope that does not come across as offensive... its just hard to justify something when life was once so black and white for me.. and now there is so much grey matter.

Sera

I too am sad to see Katie leave and how much that has touched Tojo's heart. I don't know either of them - or you Sera - but have come to know each of you through your posts and somehow feel vested in your stories.

Sera - I think we are in a similar place in that we acknowledge these submissive feelings and are trying to find out how to incorporate them into our real life. Is it our little secret? Do we eventually "come out?" Tojo says it too, that sometimes it's hard to have these feelings when the rest of the world looks down at you.

I can only say that since I'm a lifetime older than you, Sera, don't look back. Acknowledge what you know is a part of you. You have such a wonderful spirit and it's hard when those little doubts come creeping up on you. I wonder if Tojo would take away what he had with Katie in order to avoid the heartache? Probably not. (hope i'm not making any unwarranted assumptions here...)

This seems like a safe place to discuss uncertanties, to ask questions, to learn. Ok, done rambling................

[Tojo]

I wonder if Tojo would take away what he had with Katie in order to avoid the heartache? Probably not. (hope i'm not making any unwarranted assumptions here...)

I'd do it again tomorrow cookiecat- & I will too if I get the chance. I've told her to take her time & I'll wait til the end of the year.

Don't anyone ever think twice because you might get hurt- losing a love is painful, but never having one is a heck of a lot worse.

You don't get many chances in life- I'm going to be 47 years old in less than two months. I've had two chances in all that time, I married one 15 years ago, & I'm waiting for another to make her mind up.

Don't hold back & don't settle for less than the very best.


Tojo

[katie_21]

Thank you all for the wonderful words of encouragement.

wingsofanangel, yes you are very wise. But...I left the D/s relationship with him a few months ago, and it didn't get very far in the first place. I'm leaving so that we can distance ourselves, have time to think and hopefully when I decide to come back...we can just be friends.

Tojo, I don't do well when someone tells me that I have till such time to make up my mind. I've already told you my final decision.

I love my husband very much, and I don't want to do ANYTHING to jeopardize our marriage. To me...it was cheating. Thank God, I stopped it when I did. Before I did anything wrong.

[Tojo]

Guys, thanks for the kind words for me, but please let's keep this thread for katie.

Tojo

[Qmoq]

Katie, good luck again for the future. As sincere, warm and wonderful as these online things are, real-life is always more important. You're doing the right thing, but I do hope you can come back eventually.

Q x

[Timberwolf]

I hope that you all find your way down the path to where you needed to be. As long as you trust yourself, life has a funny way of working out like that in the end.

[katie_21]

Well, now I feel a bit silly for posting here after I just made this a big deal about being my last post.

I guess I should've said I'm taking a break instead. But, well here I am...I'm back. I realized I needed this place to share my kinkiness, cause well..everyone needs an outlet.

Thanks for all the nice comments that you sent my way everyone. It feels good to be back though.

[Silke]

katie...please, don't feel silly. You're always welcome here and I for one understand that things get a little weird or overwhelming from time to time. I'm glad that you seem to have figured out whatever made you leave...it's good to have you back, love.

[MajesticFae]

Welcome back katie. And you shouldn't feel silly. =) You just made a simple little typo. No one can ever fully escape their family. So... welcome back, sister. =)

[cariad]

It is lovely to see you here again Katie, and all the nice things apply even more now you are back.

Huuuuuuuuuugs, and hope you are feeling strong after your vacation from the forums.

cariad

[frankee]

Welcome back katie

[Timberwolf]

Welcome back.

[Warbaby1943]

Glad to have you back Katie.

[Tojo]

Someday you'll learn that I'm always right....


Tojo

[Warbaby1943]

Someday you'll learn that I'm always right....


Tojo

Tojo, you may not always be right but, like me, you're never wrong.

[KermitsKeeper]

Welcome back, Katie!!!

[Ozme52]

Nice to see you again katie.

[Sir_G]

Cool. Good to see tou Katie. Look forward to reading your stuff.

[suchaminx]

katie, welcome back, I'm sure it will soon feel like you have never been away

~smiles and a hug~ minx x

[riverwindsong]

welcome back!