Psynymph,

Falling for your trainer is very common.
And like you, I believe that each of us is capable of loving more than one partner. We love them in different ways, for different reasons, and we can love them for who they are.

You can't change your husband.
And yet, you are growing and exploring without him.

I don't envy the questions you have to answer to yourself:

Do you want to grow old with your husband today?
Can you accept that he may not ever change regarding sharing you
to help you meet your desires? That he may not "allow" outercourse play with other partners?
Will you be satisified leaving this new part of your life behind or will you start to resent him?

In this month's Oprah Magazine - Septebmer 2006 - Suzy Welch offers advice and explains "The Rule of 10-10-10".

When there appears to be no solution that will make everone happy, she asks herself three questions:

1. What are the consequences of my decision in 10 minutes?
2. ... in 10 months?
3. and in 10 years?

You may want to apply that those questions to your current situation.

Take care and good luck with your decision.

Ruby