On top of the good advice already there, my advice is to seek someone you feel you can be totally honest with. I dont' claim to be the most experineced guy in the word relationship-wise but I know if you're looking for a serious thing to work, you need the following: Honesty, trust (which spawns out of honesty), and respect (which develops through trust). If you can find those three things as a base with someone, then you've got something worth building on as a relationship. I'm sure if you give it time you can find a man who can gain those things with you... there's got to be one or two of us floating out there somewhere.

And Ruby, as always you know exactly how to sum it up.