Some interesting stories so far...thanks to everyone who's spoken up and shared.

I'm not really looking for advice here, even though learning from y'all is always cool. *grins* I know I'll step out of the closet when the time is right and in the meantime I love the fact that I have my second family here to share with and shout to the moon...even howl sometimes.

WB - yes, I think it would be difficult for your wife to accept the second love of your life...it's hard to grasp the concept when you haven't experienced it. That there is love for more than one person in you which doesn't take from what you have with her. I hope you'll find that your friend you mentioned will turn out to be someone to confide in, who'll take you for who you are without judging.

*big grin at IDCrewDawg and orchid* such cool stories...

brattyone - yeah, I understand about not wanting/being able to spill the beans to your family. I asked my Master whether it would be ok if I didn't wear my collar around my mum when she got too terribly close to the truth one day. I lied to her about it because I didn't feel comfortable with her knowing. My sister has been curious and I think she'll understand when I come out to her one day, but it might not happen for a long time.

maddie - lol, yeah...sometimes those clues are pretty obvious. I'm almost sure my friends has a rough idea what up with me by now. And I think if I was married to my dom or at least had some r/l kinky people to talk to, I'd probably wouldn't be so keen on finding someone to confide in either. You're really lucky that way.

Thanks to everyone who's shared their story and I'm looking forward to many, many more. Keep 'em coming!