It is funny you ask this question, Silke, as I just told a dear friend of mine some things about my "secret life". We had met for lunch, and though I had not planned to say anything, I just felt it might be the time. I did not tell her then, but left her with an idea of how happy I am and that there was more to my upcoming holiday than she knew- This is when I will be meeting up with Tojo.

I then wrote her an email, and waited for her reply. Well, I was not surprised that while she was a bit shocked, she also made sure to let me know that nothing about our friendship has changed. We are planning to meet soon, to chat, and I will just let her ask what she wants to. I have no desire to overwhelm her or make her uncomfortable. If she does not want to know any more, that will be fine with me. I am just happy I don't have to lie about the big smile on my face anymore!

I also love that I can tell her about my upcoming time with Tojo, even though right now I still need to convince her I will be safe. I don't intend to let anyone else in my family or work know, and I don't think I will be telling any other friends. I just thought about how good a friend she was and how I didn't want to keep something so important to me from her.

How do I explain my love for Aussiegirl? A lovely lady I know only from here and by the beautiful words she says to me. How do I tell them my marriage commitments are still in tact but I love Aussiegirl with my entire heart because I know her heart and soul inside an out?
Now, here is another reason I wanted to tell my friend. How can I keep the presence of such a wonderful man in my life to myself?

It was scary to tell her, but a relief that she knows. Silke, I think you will know when the time is right to share your secret. But if you never do, what does it matter. You will always have your friends here to share your secrets with!