Tojo is right ---talk to people ---Trust I have found is better if it is earned not given ----If you work to earn someones trust you are less likely to break that trust.

And I would not even think of entering a relationship of any kind much less one in the lifestyle ---until there is a clear trust between myself and my sub.

thats right I have to be able to trust my sub as much as she has to trust me.

I have found the most dificult thing to do is to ever trust someone again after they have once broken the trust ----

but I have no difficulty ---letting someone else earn my trust or trying to earn theirs.