Quote Originally Posted by Desperadosong
For those of you that have ever had trust shattered so badly that you left or stepped back from the lifestyle, how did you regain trust again to step back in? I am finding that although I miss the lifestyle, I fear that I now lack the ability to trust on that level again, no matter who.

Ds
Here's my two cents.

In relationhsips I've only seen things from a dominants point of view, but I've been badly hurt. Very much so. For me personally time healed all the wounds and I think I came out stronger because of it. The lesson I learned is that it's better that I comit my heart 100% each time than living in fear of getting it broken. Getting your heart broken I think is preferable to being lonely or living with someone safe and boring you don't really love.

The sad fact is that feeling secure with someone is just a feeling. You can never really know what's going on in another persons head. Be atentive for dishonesty but don't turn into a jelous monster, (which drives people away from you and makes them dishonest).