This is one subject that is hard for many to understand. The abuse of childhood and then the lifestyle we choose as we get older and the role we play therein. Also, this has been discussed here at the forums many times...always interesting views.

That being said, I was sexually abused as a child. Very young when this all happened. Does this shape you as a sub or a dom...there's a lot out there that suggests just that, but then there are others that contridict that as well.

I am a submissive. I am not ashamed of it. It's been through my submission that I have learned so much about myself and about people in general. I do beleive it is because of my submissive nature that I have succeeded in overcoming the pain of my abuse.

What a submissive and a dominant need to learn is the difference between abuse and what the lifestyle is about. It's not just about getting the flogger taken to my backside or the crop to any area my dom wishes. Hell all of that is fun. But for me, it's about growth and learning more about yourself and your dom/domme.

When I first read the auther of this threads experience, I couldn't believe the similarities of my life and theirs. It has been because of the great doms in my life I have been able to do exactly as this person was able to do...get past the past and move forward...all we need is a little encouragement.

SB