i don't consider that Dragon and i are conforming. i wear my eternity collar always. My work associates and his consider me a most unusually respectful and doting "significant other". At a company function of his, one of his co-workers mentioned that he "wished he could get his girlfriend trained that way." (his glass never being allowed to be empty, little things like that). The dynamic of ownership and respect are present no matter who is around. As for the kink elements, who really knows what goes on in someone else's sex life? And would you really want to know?
We have our "pubic names" for each other, to reinforce our in public dynamic. i call him "Love", he calls me "little love".
So while we certainly don't parade it (at least not until we win the Mega million lottery), i do not really feel that we are hiding it either.

Apologies for the ramble.

muse