I must say, I am a little jealous of you, Rhiannon. BDSM, a boyfriend and a girlfriend all at the age of 18. I wish I had been that lucky when I was that age.

Seriously, though, when you want to know something from someone, the best thing to do is ask. The best questions are open-ended ones and not ones that can be answered yes or no.

For instance, ask them "What do you know about BDSM?" or "How would you feel about tying me up or letting me tie you up?"

However, if you're going to ask the questions, then you should have some good answers when they ask questions back. If one of your partners asks you what BDSM is, you need to know what to tell them.
Start here for some general knowledge.

If you need any advice or have any questions, many people here will be willing to assist you. You will get a lot of different answers and a lot of different opinions. You might not agree with all of them, but at least read them and decide for yourself what's the best thing for you and your relationship.

Also, at anytime, you may contact me personally, if you ever wish to discuss anyting not in public. You can private message me or email me by clicking the "Profile" button at the bottom of this message.

Good luck and have fun. :[