I dont have any really close friends out there in the nilla world. One of the closest ones has an idea but he thinks its along the lines of handcuffs in the bedroom. I've never been social. Staying at home with a good book and cuddling is my idea of a good time. So i've never really felt that i had to "come out" to those "friends" i do have.
None of my family would understand, aside from my sister. I have a very conservative, religious family.
Ultimately, I would love to be able to live out as a sub and not care who thought what of it. For now, I'll be content to know that it is who i am and be happy with that.