Timberwolf, how would you feel if someone tried to convert you to their religion?
How would you feel if someone tried to shove their politics down your throat?

No one's forcing you to embrace their lifestyle. Why do you want to impose yours on them? You need to determine the source of your insecurity.

You are welcome to live whatever lifestyle you want independent of anyone else in society. However, you might be very lonely doing this.

The reason you feel the need to conform in the vanilla world is you want what the vanilla world has to offer. Starbucks, ipods, cars, cell phones.

I say live and let live. Outing yourself may serve some inner need which you haven't articulated, but my bet is the fallout will be a higher price than you want to pay.