Aria, it does seem to be a matter of luck. I know I am so lucky to have found someone like Tojo, especially when I wasn't even looking! To me, if you can be friends first and if you feel right, you are part of the way there. As Tojo said though, you need to have compatable needs and desires too. Also it has to be fun.

It needs to be something that you feel deep inside of you, and it is not for everyone. I have only just now realised it is what I want, but for many, many years I was happy to just look on and read some great stories. You will know in your heart if you really want to try persue something and I wish you all the best as you discover what it is you want.