I thank everyone for their suggestions and replies, they have been very helpful. This weekend has been a very hectic and stressfull one, and I believe that I will be posting another question soon.
However I should state that I would like nothing more than to be in a 24/7 D's relationship, but realistically I have been in a long term Vanilla relationship and cannot just leave because I have different wants and needs than his. I need to try and find out if we can compramise on what I want and what he can give me.
And again thank you to everyone for your advice.