I always enjoy letting little things slip in conversation. Remember when you were young, and would maybe hear a sexually themed joke but not understand it?

Sometimes I'll mention little terms and phrases, that most Vanilla folks won't understand, just to see them nod and smile because they haven't a clue.

It's great fun. I call other people Vanilla sometimes, and they usually have no idea what I'm talking about, and even if they do it tends to bring a laugh rather than a frown.

In my experience, people who don't agree with the lifestyle don't know enough about it to pick up on little phrases and nuances.