to control the dildo. You do not put raw curent into the body it will kill.
Ass for the dildo you could take a normal silicone dildo and run a line of tinfoil from one side to the other and leave some extra at the base to affice the contacts for the tens unit. Nothing works as well as home brew.

also I dont think it would be a good idea to put a clip on the clitoris directly to much in to small of a place.

good place to look belive it or not would be google with the adult filters turned off of course.

good luck in your shocking