angel - i actually find doggie to be quite brutal and painful for anal...(mmmm, er, ooops, sorry! LOL), although it is possible this was/is for psychological reasons as much as physical. When i first started anal, i always found that on my side, in a spoons type position worked best, and then took it from there. It can also be as sort of 'dominant' or undominant as you like in this position.

Oh, and yeah, it will probably hurt a bit either way, but if done properly and with some degree of consideration (at least until you're used it it! ) then it certainly shouldn't be agony.

bushman - i'm not entirely clear what your question is - "if we continue this for a long time, will i get too loose and end up with depends when i get older"....firstly, do you mean if you continue it for a long time in one session, or a long time as in many sessions over a number of months/years? Secondly 'ends up with depends'??

sl