Hip hip hazzah to all that have posted here. I love all the differing views on collars and collaring.

For me and my training Pet, we us the collar like as others have said as a symbol. But we do take it one step further. The way we have our relationship set up is kind of a mix of scene and 24/7. First off, we have two kids (7 years old and 6 months old) they are the most important parts of our lives. My wife (who is also training to be my Pet) takes care of them during the day while I am at work. We did not want out D/s relationship to affect my wife’s authority on the kids.

So this is what we have done, while she is training to be my Pet all the time she is only completely submissive when she is wearing her collar or when we are alone. By doing this we are not “sheltering” the kids for BDSM, it is more for if they see me controlling their mother they will get the idea that they can to.

So, we have a few collars ranging from large black leather with four hefty D rings around it for serous bondage, a medium purple leather one with spikes and only one D ring in the front, one of the thin cheep “every adult shop has it” leather one that says “Slave” across the front with snap closures, and I just finished making one out of chainmail European 4in1 weave (ask and I’ll explain) with a wonderful lock and key closer in the back. This one will be for public wear because it looks like a very nice flat chain choker, no one sees the lock in the back but it is fitted to her neck and she has said she feels it pressing at the small of her neck and is a very good reminder.

I also have My Collar. One that I have made that will represent me taking her as a full Pet. This one is very ornate with hard leather, doe skin, and fur lined with four medium D rings and a locking back. It is also have My Pet embossed into it. This will be worn mostly for alone play and parties.

Warning… One of the major reasons for so many collars is that I not only work the Ren Faires around MI, but I also know a good deal about working leather and chain. And if I don’t know it I know someone who does. Not every one has friends that give you the leather collar your wife was drooling over as hand fasting gifts.

Well this ended up longer then I expected, sorry about that.