In my experience with BDSM there are as many theories of how BDSM should be expressed as the number of kinks there are in all our fantasies. It would be nice if a universal standard existed but their isn't.

I don't see anything wrong with your reply kittenfemme, and more importantly it met with our owners' approval, however I don't see that the writer of the message to you was that over the top.

I mean, obviously they aren't very good in the reading comprehension department but I have seen a whole lot worse and you have too I imagine.

I personally would not have written the letter they wrote to you. Introductions should be done in a much more neutral manner than they did, certainly without using the term "bitch" but, different standards apply in different circumstances.

Drake.