Echos, *hugs tight*

Sadly, abuse is all too common a thing that I've seen when talking to other submissives. I agree with what everyone else has said thus far. In the end if there is ANY part of the relationship you are not comfortable with, you need to be careful. Especially since you've mentioned that he did not communicate with you. No matter what, communication is KEY in ANY relationship. If you cannot talk about things, no matter how small, from the weather, to bigger issues, it won't work. There is so much more to submission than just the sex. Sadly, again, far too many think that this is the case.

I am sorry that you have had to go through it. But, similiarly to my own experiences, anything that does not kill us, and we learn from, and allow to make ourselves stronger, in the end has served some purpose for the greater good. It sucks so much that we have to go through these painful trials and times to become who we are today. But unless we let that fire consume us, in the end I truely believe that we will come out of it refined and ready for the one who is destined to be our partner.

*hugs tightly again* If you ever need to chat, please PM me or hollar at me on messenger. I've got both mine linked on my profile.