Originally posted by MrJerseyGuy
Funny...when I mentioned that I had gone out and purchased her a brand new lovely butt plug her response was the same as redEva's

I'm re-thinking my position on this.
Dearest MrJerseyGuy,

My comment was made in good spirit, and was not meant to offend. From your response I gather it did not either. I am glad, especially since I can see how you are responding to her.

My strong belief is that nothing is better than first hand experience. It is quite easily for any Dom (experienced or not) to be taken aback by the expression and the screams of pain of the afflicted sub if He/She did not have a ‘pleasure’ of experiencing the same treatment before.

The theory and fantasy are something completely different from the real life experience. Even though I love fantasizing about anal play – I do not even remotely enjoy the enema experience (if it would be administered by someone else, in the scene – there of course is that humiliation element – but that is all). As for the but-plugs they are fun. Definitely takes time to be able to accommodate one for extended period of time.

It is wonderful to see that you are taking her input seriously – for me it really is no fun to force something on someone that that person does not want – on some level.

So… all that being said – I still hope you manage to persuade her to see the things your way .

One thing I found out (from my own experience) is that but-plug is much easier to bear while aroused. So I think that anal training goes extremely well with orgasm deprivation. What do you think?