With regard to satisfying a sub, for Me the whole point of being a Dom is to enjoy and express My wishes/feelings with regard to being in control. I cannot think of a better way of excercising that control than to be able to satisfy My sub, through the use of pain and humilation, combined with love and respect.

Why would a sub stay with a Dom who didn't give her what she wanted, which must mean 'satisfy' her ? Isn't the point of being a Dom or sub to gain satisfaction in your own way ?

Surely a Dom who gives no thought as to whether or not his sub is satisfied is no more than a sadist. I have no problem with someone being that (just a sadist), other than when such a person wants to describe himself as a Dom.

Being a Dominant is, to Me, so very much more than just handing out punishment. If I thought for one moment that My sub was not (ultimately) being satisfied then I would be changing what I was doing, until she was also 'enjoying' the experience.